My 10 year old daughter has a ‘friend’ who seems very popular, with all the girls wanting to be her buddy. My daughter has had quite a few play dates/trips out etc with this girl which often go well but often the other girl ends up in a mood or goes quiet and won’t engage with my daughter etc (which my daughter then gets upset about, asks her ‘why aren’t you talking etc’). I think a lot of the time it comes from my daughter not doing exactly what the other girl wants, and (so I’m told) the other girl will say things like ‘if you don’t play [what she wants to play] then I will just go off and play it with [another friend]’ or ‘if you don’t do [whatever she wants to do] then I won’t invite you to my sister’ party’. etc etc.
I know they are only young but I just find this behaviour quite manipulative and controlling?! I am trying to encourage my daughter to stand up for herself/walk away if the other girl says that sort of stuff but I think she fears that if they fall out then everyone will side with the other girl as for some reason they all seem to want to be her friend. I think this other girl just likes being in control and doesn’t like it when she is challenged (my daughter is a fairly strong character although a bit less so around this girl) hence the huffs and sulking sometimes.
I don’t think I can tell my daughter not to be friends with this girl (she still wants to be as they get on fine sometimes, plus as mentioned, she is popular with others) but I am not sure how best to handle this. My older daughter is 16 and never had any of this, just think they all seem really young to be behaving like this/having to deal with this! Any advice? Thx in advance x
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SussexSun25 · 18/05/2021 07:13
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