Me and ex split a few years ago, we have a good relationship and we coparent. But I just don’t like his family, especially his mum and sister. They’re horrible people, I was married to him for 8 years. Ex SIL attacked me when I was pregnant, ex mil talked shit behind my back and coming to my house like “hiya..” so fake and not knowing I knew everything she said. She said her son deserves better, I’m a bad mum and her son should have married one of all those other women “who were hitting on all the time” 🙄. They lie, use, and slander people. Ex SIL will only call ex DH if she needs something, they will only see each other once a year for Christmas at their mums. And of course ex DH is the golden child and does nothing wrong in his mums eyes. He doesn’t class SIL as family, the only family he has is his mum and I, ex and SIL have this fake relationship, and I feel sorry for him. She does nothing for him, but she will only call him if she needs something and he will help her. She pays him back by chatting shit about him. SIL and MIL also chat shit about each other, it’s just a weird family. So when me and ex separated in 2018, SIL said to ex that he’s happy he’s met someone new because now she gets a “ new SIL”. She was literally happy that my marriage broke down, I’ll admit I never spent any time with her, because I didn’t want to spend time with fake people. But seriously who says they’re happy someone’s marriage broke down because that means they’ll get a new SIL? Funny enough, that “new SIL” has exactly the same relationship I had with ex SIL. They only see each other once a year for Christmas that’s it. I had so much anxiety when I had to spend time with his mum/sister at Christmas or when his mum would come round, sometimes she would just come round and ignore me the entire time and just chat to her son even though I was sitting next to him. Would come in the house, hug her son and grandchildren and completely ignore me and I had no idea what was wrong. I’m so happy I’m out of that situation.
So my question is, if I see them in public what do I do? Should I say hi or just ignore? I often think about this, because we all live in the same area although his sister lives 30 mins away and his mum lives 10 mins away but we all live in London and who knows we might run into each other in the future. What would you do?
AIBU?
AIBU to not say hi to ex inlaws?
lockdownlife2 · 15/04/2021 13:16
Also realising that his mother would project her own insecurities onto me helped, because she wasn't happy with her life she wanted to bring me down. Honestly when he finally moved out, the knot in my stomach was gone and my chest wasn't heavy anymore. I could finally breathe knowing she wouldn't be in my house. In the beginning after he moved out, ex did ask me if he could bring his mum round to see the kids as "it's easier that way" but I put a stop to that, he didn't live here anymore and had no say in who can/cannot come. Now she only sees the kids when their with him.
Just looking outside my window everyday and not seeing her car makes me so happy. Took a while to get used to though, when you're so used to seeing the devil everyday 
@Needcoffeecoffeecoffee
Same!
I say I would do this but in reality I would probably fall over trying to hide behind a bin or a lamppost to escape
I would smile a cheery "good morniny/afternoon/hello" and walk on past with my head held high.
Treat them like you would someone you vaguely know from around town/school gates etc
It's the nice thing to do and paints you in a good light (no bitching that you've ignored them) and more importantly people like that cannot stand the idea that you have moved on and are happier and they are of so like consequence that you are so over it you can be polite.
They will be confused and then annoyed.
They sound horrible and you are well within your rights to ignore them... but a bright and breezy hello as you walk by will annoy them more .
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