A small bit of background, my fiancé has a friends who he's been close to since school, i'll call him Steve. He lives up in Scotland and in the 4 1/2 years we've seen him twice. The first time he acted like an entitled jerk and took my partners car without telling him. The second time it was for about an hour or so while he was down seeing family. They message often but Steve always has to try and up 1 him in every achievement.
My mum passed back in December and I've not been doing too well with my mental health since. To cut a long story short I ended up in a and e on Sunday night to meet with the crisis team. While sat in a and e (in a very fragile state) I noticed Steve messaging my partner. I assumed it was to support my fiancé and check in on me. But when I looked over my partner pulled his phone away and said Steve isn't saying the nicest of things at the moment.
Its been a few days and it's been playing on my mind since. So this morning I looked through his phone so i could see what Steve had been saying. My partner has deleted everything from that night. But continually talks about me having tantrums and putting me down when talking to Steve. Steve goes on about how i need to be sanctioned and i have too many 'loose wires crossed'. But my partner doesnt really stick up for me.
Would I be unreasonable to tell my partner I no longer want him talking about me to Steve.
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Sadbri · 24/03/2021 08:47
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Am I being unreasonable?
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