It was my birthday a few weeks ago and he didn&#39;t get me anything. No card, no cake, no gift (I don&#39;t care about the gifts value, but more just the gesture). *Actually, he sent me an e-card while I was upstairs on my own at 10pm. <br><br>I wasn&#39;t expecting much to be honest, because over the past few years my husband has not really bothered with gifts for me during the typical occasions you would exchange gifts. <br><br>He got me a very expensive watch for our 10yr anniversary a few years ago. And I was super grateful and almost didn&#39;t want to accept it. But that is literally the last gift I remember getting from him. He typically doesn&#39;t do anniversaries - I always get him a card, but other than that it&#39;s a non event. 9 out of 10 times he wouldn&#39;t get me a card. <br><br>On my birthday last year he bought a little cake and a card for me (more so for the kids) and ended up having food poisoning so went to bed at 5pm. I spent the evening alone and left the cake so we could share it as a family the next day. I also had to ask him to take me out for dinner the following night when he was feeling better.<br><br>Christmas again was nothing. Plenty of gifts for the children, even some from Santa for both him and my son jointly. But nothing for me. I stuffed my own stocking with stuff I got on Xmas eve at the super market and the only gift I unwrapped was a hat I bought on sale from Dorothy Perkins using his credit card while I was out buying gifts for the kids. <br><br>Mother&#39;s Day he did get me a card from the kids, along with a peppa pig and mummy book, but we didn&#39;t do anything else as we&#39;d just gone into lockdown. <br><br>This year for our anniversary he wished me shortly after it turned midnight for the day. Then no card, no acknowledgement of it or anything after we woke up. But he called his friend twice to wish him happy birthday. I had a feeling he wouldn&#39;t do anything, so it was the first time I didn&#39;t bother with a card either 😕<br><br>This birthday again was nothing. His excuse was that it was too difficult to get me anything because of covid and getting out of the house on his own. He did try and make it a bit special by having my son set the table and make me breakfast. But I ended up cooking the pancakes myself while he made the bacon. He had my son make me a card the night before - which one all honesty was the thing I wanted the most. But my son kept remarking the whole day how he went downstairs expecting there to be balloons and a cake and said numerous times throughout the day that it didn&#39;t feel much like a birthday. I had to decide and plan what we did for the day, which was a day out to the park for the kids and I drove us an hour there and back. <br><br>He keeps warning me that he&#39;s not got me anything. And not to be disappointed. But I am. Not at the monetary value. I don&#39;t care about that. It&#39;s more the lack of effort that disappoints me. We have 2 more birthdays coming up in our house in the next few weeks and I have ensure that card have been bought, gifts have been ordered and cakes will be made. He has also purchased a lot of gifts online for our son, so it&#39;s not like he&#39;s oblivious to online ordering.