in laws

[yougotanuglyboatrace]

Aibu to ask if you find yours difficult/irritating/infuriating and if so, why?

[Eventrider1]

Mine are lovely. Sometimes we can run out of things to talk about which makes it a bit awkward when we all sit in silence until someone thinks of something else to say which does give me a bit of anxiety, especially when DH uses those lulls to nip out of the room, leaving me on my own 😩 but apart from that and DFIL's charity shop habit for 'joke gifts', I think they are pretty great.

[2020BetterBeBetter]

Other than their time keeping, no not at all.

[tillytrotter1]

Most women on here probably regard their in-laws in the same way that their partners regard their in-laws.

[TeaForTara]

MIL is lovely. (FIL died before I met DH.)

[LakieLady]

MIL is lovely, BIL is lovely, SIL1 and her husband are lovely.

SIL2 is a bit of a bitch and quite up herself, and her "D"H is unspeakably vile. Racist, sexist, a bully and a right goady fucker. I tend to avoid family things if there's any chance he might be attending.

[TheBigFatMermaid]

FIL is a grumpy old git, but the same to everyone! He is a fabulous and loving Grandfather to our DC!

MIL is calm, lovely and refuses any help when we visit!

BILs are lovely. I am particularly close to the younger one, he comes to visit us sometimes too.

Overall, no complaints and certainly nothing to start a thread about on here.🤣

SIL,married to the other BIL, she's alright. No complaints.she is particularly sweet to our DD and nice enough to DS.

[Lizzie0869]

My MIL is lovely, but she's high maintenance, as she's very full on. She's always been far too keen to create a mother/daughter relationship with me, which I have absolutely no desire to form with her or anyone else. She actually wanted me to call her 'Mum' in the beginning, which I refused, as I have a Mum already; my relationship with my Mum isn't great, but I'm still very loyal to her.

MIL has a lovely relationship with my DDs, though, so I have no issue with having her come to stay, I just don't like it when she tries too hard with me.

[TigerComesBack]

We have little to do with them tbh. SIL is a massive bitch and did some really nasty stuff to us. The whole family are excusers and enablers so when we said it wasn't ok, they basically closed ranks and have largely ignored our existence since. No loss to us. If you ask them though they 'are a really close family' They live with their heads in the sand.

We cope with them well because we live in another country. I highly recommend it.

[Elbeagle]

Mine, like most people, have their great points, their good points and their faults. Just like me, just like my family, just like DH.
It can be a tricky relationship because essentially they’re not my family, they do things differently, it’s a different dynamic. However they don’t do anything intentionally to hurt me, and in general we get on well.

[NoMorePoliticsPlease]

I love my DILs and SILs Thanks god. We are people with feelings just like you.

[RedPanda2]

KateK00 so sorry for the loss of your DD

[RedPanda2]

I suspect this is for a column. You're lazy. I love my partners parents.

[PennyGold]

I feel really sorry for those who have awful in-laws, mine are lovely and I really enjoy spending time with them.

[notanotherjigsawpiece]

My MIL is lovely. Fun, generous and treats my DC (from a previous relationship) the same as her biological GC. I was ill recently and she helped me out a lot.

[PhilCornwall1]

The way I look at it is, I don't have in-laws, my wife has parents. She doesn't see them or talk to them much either.

[sayingno]

They were awful this year and they brought me close to hating them. Then I realised hate is such an unhealthy feeling and since then I learned to keep them at arm's length and on an "information diet" as a pp has said and it's been great.

[Xyzzzzz]

I don’t tell them things or only bare minimum. The less they know the less they interfere.

[Rollonspringtime2020]

5 years since seen mil.
Can def recommend it....

[yougotanuglyboatrace]

I keep them on an information diet so they don’t interfere.whats an information diet?!

[pinksunday]

Not spoke to mine for nearly 2 years - it's bliss

[Nikmarsh26]

Mine is condescending to me, rude and generally irritating. I try and keep as far away if im honest x

[ZeroOneOneTwoThree]

I love them mostly, but we have struggled with a dynamic change since DS was born.

MIL wants what is best for her grandchildren, forgetting that I want what’s best for my son too (but obviously, my best isn’t her best, so it’s not good enough!)

I’d say they’re lovely, unless we’re talking about DS, politics, finances or the house that DH and I share.

[LittleRen]

I do find in “real life” most people I know get on with their in-laws.. on mumsnet the opposite seems true

[LittleRen]

I love mine. My FIL can be a little too opinionated but as time has gone on I have learnt to just wind him up about it and I laugh it off, we have a great relationship. I am lucky they aren’t controlling at all and my MIL is so thoughtful and caring. Sometimes in a weird way I wish they were a little more overbearing! They really do just let us get on with it, no pressure with anything - they just get as involved as we want them to be.

I do make a real effort with them though, I never used to, and I think it really helps.

[Hollyhobbi]

@KateK00 that's dreadful. You and your ds are better off without him and his crazy mother. So sorry about your little girl. My stepfather in law is a lovely man. Being divorced means I rarely have to see my loopy ex mil. I only see my ex husband in Court rooms the last few years.