My DP and I have been in a more or less long-distance relationship (same country, different cities) for the last couple of years. I finally found a job in their city and the obvious next step is for me to move in. We've both been longing to finally get to live together.
My DP owns a flat. The problem for me is DP has a roommate. The roomie is a nice person, we have friends in common, and we all get on well, but I just don't want to live in that kind of house-share. We are all late 20s to early 30s and I've been there and done that. I just want to live with my DP.
DP doesn't see the problem. DP enjoys living with this person and see it as a good way to make a bit of extra cash. We had a discussion about it last night and DP was very taken aback when I suggested asking the roommate to move out. DP feels it's mean to make roommate leave when they've done nothing wrong. It would also mean DP would have to have a very awkward conversation they don't want to have, as I'm the one who wants the roommate to move out.
AIB totally U and selfish? Should I just suck it up and move into a shared house even though I promised myself I would never do that again? I've been living on my own for 2+ years and love it. The idea of living with anyone who isn't my partner makes me feel a bit stressed as I used to house share and could never relax.
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Housingsitch · 16/12/2019 18:22
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Am I being unreasonable?
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