to use lodgers bathroom

[wishiwasinbarbados]

We have a lodger who has their own bedroom and bathroom. He is away for Christmas and DH intends to use the lodgers bathroom as we have family staying with us over Christmas.
I'm not too happy with this as the lodger pays for sole use of the bathroom.
Would you use the bathroom over Christmas or not?

[churchandstate]

I think you have to ask.

[TheLittleBrownFox]

Ask, it's rude not to!

I'd want the chance to leave it presentable and tidy away my things first.

[gobbynorthernbird]

Is he already away?

[ohprettybaby]

*cfery not very.

[ohprettybaby]

No. That is very unless you ask if you can and deduct some money from their rent in return.

[BringMeTea]

If his bedroom is not accessed then of course you can use it!

[heartsonacake]

You have to ask him. It is rude to use it without his permission.

[PixiKitKat]

Ask him and leave it clean when your done.

[Fr0g]

text? he is a lodger - lives in same house, Speak to him in person& ask FFS.
if not a discount, at least a decent gift

[WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles]

So if you want to use something "belonging" to another occupant in the house, do you:

A. Ask the occupant
B. Ask Mumsnet

Ask him!

[Brimful]

Definitely ask the lodger!

[Teachermaths]

Text him and ask. Possibly accompany the request with a rent reduction.

[myself2020]

Offer the lodger a reduction in rent for december (20% or so) and ask!

[cultmaskid]

Text and ask him if you give him money

[wishiwasinbarbados]

No access problems. We wouldn't go into his bedroom.

[lovemenorca]

Ask fgs
And offer a discount

Give him the chance to remove all his bathroom items before strangers use his bathroom. And give him a little money off next month’s rent

If you don’t tell him, you have no right being a landlord. Very poor

[Aquamarine1029]

Do you have to go through his room to access the bathroom?

[Purpleartichoke]

Ask permission and promise a thorough cleaning before lodger returns.

[HollowTalk]

I'd see the bathroom as very different to his bedroom.

[HollowTalk]

I would use it if he was definitely going to be away. As long as it's cleaned afterwards, who cares?

[DisplayPurposesOnly]

As a courtesy I would let the lodger know you'll be using 'his' bathroom whilst he's away. (It's your house after all!)

If I were a lodger paying for sole use of a bathroom, I'd expect that to apply whilst I was in residence and I wouldn't really care much what you did when I wasn't there so long as you didn't make free with my posh toiletries, and cleaned the bathroom for my return. I would like to be kept informed though.

[Northofsomewhere]

I was in this situation as a student, I would've absolutely said yes if asked however would've been a bit annoyed had it been used unasked.
I would also expect any items I've left in there to be moved so they couldn't be used by any other guests. I wouldn't expect a reduction in rent (if I'm away I'm not using it anyway) but would maybe appreciate any left over toilet rolls (I was a cash strapped student).

[BMW6]

You should ask permission of course!

[BarbedBloom]

I wouldn't be happy if I had my private things in there, but would be okay if I had notice. I would ask your lodger.

[Aquamarine1029]

I would ask the lodger, definitely.