Name change for obvious reasons , but I really need some advise .
I’ve been with DH almost 7 years, married this year .
Our relationship is so strong and we have no issues . He stands by me , goes above and beyond , has been with me through some awful times . I have a good relationship with his Dad and I do get on with his Mum. A lot of people have said it’s nice that I can go out and do things with just them if DH is out or whatever .
Anyway recently she’s becoming quite controlling . But she does it in a clever way that really gets to you but isn’t obvious to other people. DH has my back and has stood his ground but it’s getting hard. She’s sent text messages about me to him saying I’m mean, but if I text her I get ‘nicey nice mood messages back so if DH didn’t show me the messages I’d be clueless which would be cruel really. I’d rather know.
For example , on our days off (we get your standard two days off but DH works very long hours so his days are are more precious than mine), we want to do things together as during the week we are often like passing ships . We like to go for walks together , go shopping and stuff. Or I’ll maybe be seeing my Mum who I see maybe once a month , or going out with friends . MIL has been getting offended , texting DH saying we never bother with her , why do I see my mum and not her, we don’t care about her, we are hurtful, etc .
Just to point out she’s in her 40’s she’s not a widowed 90 yo who doesn’t see anyone from the outside world.
We text her almost daily and always have as she has got offended before saying we never bother with her . I see her once a week sometimes more, DH once a week too and usually on his day off during the week if I’m at work so we can still see each other on the weekend if he’s not working.
It’s endless nagging , saying he’s changed and he use to be so close to her
Are we being unreasonable to feel bothered by this ? Are we not doing enough ?
I’m seeing her today and worried she’s going to say something to me after her blow up the other day.
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Controlling MIL?
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DidYouSayTea · 08/12/2019 08:22
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Am I being unreasonable?
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08/12/2019 14:50
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