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Things your DP says that drives you mad

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Butterflyflower1234 · 04/12/2019 12:40

We can't be the only couple that argue over little things that are said but they drive you bonkers.

Last night my DP told me to 'chill out' which drives me insane. I am chilled!! I just give a damn about things.

Also he has a habit of asking when I'm 'due on' if I'm being a bit moody.

He's generally pretty awesome so these are just silly things that drive me bonkers. Do you have any things like this to share?

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StCharlotte · 05/12/2019 21:27

"Can we try to.."

I'm guilty of using "we" because otherwise I'd be saying "can you try to..." which I think comes across worse. It's like I'm admitting joint responsibility (even though I never leave my shoes in the hall for example) to soften the blow.

I honestly don't know how else to put it without sounding like I'm nagging. Any less patronising suggestions welcome!

HerkyBaby · 05/12/2019 04:07

What have you done all day?

Oh there you are - sitting in your lazy chair !

Swedetalker · 05/12/2019 04:05

"Can we try to.."
As in, "can we try to not leave our shoes in the hall" "can we try to put rubbish straight into the bin"
I appreciate the sentiment, I'm a slob, but I cant stand the patronising phrasing.

SparklingSaskia · 05/12/2019 03:55

“Where is the ....?” just about any item that he wants to use/needs.
“Let’s not have an argument about this.” Why not?

timeisnotaline · 05/12/2019 03:27

@Makinganewthinghappen

I posted a while ago about my dh telling me to “smash the day” - terrible

I remember this too . I read it to my family and because of it told my little brother just this morning to smash the day (he heard your original story so got it)

FrowningFlamingo · 05/12/2019 03:14

‘Could you give this a quick rinse’ which roughly translated means ‘wash up this filthy pan’

Quebeth · 05/12/2019 01:09

My DH uses "goo" for ejaculate

I am crying at this 😂😂

To answer the question...pretty much everything 🤷🏻‍♀️

justilou1 · 05/12/2019 01:02

“...and what-not” meaning and whatever... for some reason, what-not sends me into a spin.
Referring to cupboards as “Tallboys” and chests of drawers as “Lowboys”... WHY? OR.... “Duchesses”
This plays in nicely with my other pet peeve...
“Have you seen my ....?” (*LOATHE!!!)
“Found it! It was on the duchess!” WTAF! Who refers to a chest of drawers as a member of the aristocracy? (Especially THAT particularly hideous piece of tat that he will never let me get rid of???)
I don’t speak this language. (Nor do I play hide and seek with him. He is middle-aged. He has his own things and his own eyes.)

Saracen · 05/12/2019 00:35

Whenever I ask him what he means, because he hasn't chosen his words well, he simply repeats exactly the same phrase again. Example:

Him: My sister's wouldn't be a good idea because it's too late.
Me: (wondering, "your sister's what? which of your four sisters are we discussing? or sisters? or sisters'? too late for what? what on earth are you on about?") What do you mean?
Him: My sister's wouldn't be a good idea because it's too late.
Me: I heard you, I just didn't understand you. Use more words please.

Even then he sometimes repeats the same phrase yet again!

ILearnedItFromABook · 05/12/2019 00:06

Thought of another. Whenever I offer him two options, he'll often answer "yes" or "no"! I think he usually is answering in the affirmative or negative to the first option, but it's so frustrating, because I feel I have to follow up with another question to be sure! Why can't he just listen to both options and answer back properly?! It's not that difficult, surely!

ILearnedItFromABook · 04/12/2019 23:53

"Calm down" sets my teeth on edge.

Admittedly, I have a temper and can be a bit emotional at times (especially compared to "Mr. Cool, Calm, and Collected"), but that phrase (or any variation of it) has the exact opposite of a calming effect!

KellyHall · 04/12/2019 23:43

When my dh tells our dd how I'm feeling:

"Let's leave mummy alone, she's just being grumpy"

Well I fucking well am grumpy now, you twat!

nevergotthehangofthursdays · 04/12/2019 23:36

TheQueen, what I do in that situation is repeat exactly what I heard, including the mumbles and gibberish and mfmuljgygfprrrts. Tends to annoy and amuse in equal measure.

nevergotthehangofthursdays · 04/12/2019 23:32

MitziK apparently it's National Disability Week this week and our work have a 'try to get round this building in a wheelchair' challenge and a 'see how life looks with this visual impairment' challenge - but nothing for the hearing impaired.

I think some clever clogs should design headphones that distort normal hearing to what ours is like unaided, and we should force our respective OH's to wear them for a day or two to see what we go through. I'm sick of DH making jokes about potatoes when I have to ask him to repeat stuff.

TheQueenSnortsAvocados · 04/12/2019 21:50

"I should be able to." I don't give a flying fuck if you should be able to, I want to know if you will.

Also, will mumble something, or walk away as he's speaking, so it goes like this:

Him: "I spoke to mum about the weekend and blah blah mumble mumble...

Me: Sorry, what?

Him: it means Saturday and Sunday I'll be away.

Me: don't explain, fuckwit, REPEAT. It's not that I don't understand, I can't hear you.

Sexnotgender · 04/12/2019 21:37

Oh, and starting a conversation with absolutely no context whatsoever.

My husband does that, drives me fucking MENTAL. It’s like he’s bringing you into a conversation he’s having in his head halfway through.

Taswama · 04/12/2019 21:24

Management speak - current favourite is ‘you need to deliver a solution’

Aargh!

NannyPear · 04/12/2019 21:23

Use your fucking words or send me a fucking text message

UnravellingThreads · 04/12/2019 21:20

'It's not rocket surgery.'

I think it's a deliberate mixed metaphor for humour, rather than accidental, but I daren't ask. It pisses me off either way.

NannyPear · 04/12/2019 21:19

Him: "Yeah that's what I said"
Me: "No, you didn't say that at all"
Him: "Well, you know that's what I meant"

Why can't you just say what you mean in the first place?!

welshsoph · 04/12/2019 21:13

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Thehop · 04/12/2019 21:03

Oh god @MitziK I’m annoyed with him for you

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cortex10 · 04/12/2019 21:01

DS coined the phrase 'wizard speak' to describe DH's dialogue on a bad day - a mixture of Catweazle, Yoda and Worzle Gummage. Vowels at the end of sentences, archaic phrases, generally gibberish. And then gets upset as we try to decipher what on Earth he's talking about. Drives us mad.

Thehop · 04/12/2019 21:00

It is what it is

I know. You’re basically saying “that’s that” stop stating the obvious you cock womble!

powershowerforanhour · 04/12/2019 20:57

MitziK, I think you win the thread.

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