AIBU? I think you'll all shout 'yes', but this is niggling away at me and I just need to let it out so it doesn't bother me any more.
My 3 year-old niece is just 3 is wonderful and gorgeous. She was the first grandchild/niece and everyone adores her, including me. My LO has just turned 1 - we had a party for her a couple of months ago. We had a family get-together at the weekend to celebrate my niece's birthday. My SIL smiled and thanked me when I handed over her present, but then made this massive song and dance about the presents given by her sister and my other brother and his partner, pointing them out to everyone and saying what lovely presents they were, getting her to open them in front of everyone. She didn't mention my present again, and although she asked my niece to thank my brother and her sister for her presents, she didn't ask her to thank me.
Also, when my LO turned 1 my brother gave her a book. A great book, kind of him, always glad to get books for DD and I'm not (usually) the kind of person who's competitive about presents. But he hadn't wrapped it up, and there was a definite air of 'oh shit, I need to get a present quickly' about it. Then he got my niece two beautiful dresses from a chi-chi shop in Hampstead for her third birthday, which my SIL had asked everyone not to make a big deal of.
I feel a little bit narked. And I feel horrible for feeling narked. It's not the first time my SIL has not thanked me for presents and I'm starting to feel a little bit paranoid. I know it's disgusting to feel jealous (is this jealousy?) of a toddler, but I feel a bit peed off on my DD's behalf that she wasbn't worth a lovely dress too, and I'm not worth a thank-you, even if my birthday present wasn't that great (having taken SIL's request seriously and not made a big deal)!
Now tell me I'm being an ungrateful cow and I should be glad I have a family at all. But I do feel better sharing this!
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AIBU?
I sound bitter and jealous, but this is bothering me and I need to get it out! (sorry, long)
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4ameternal · 20/08/2007 22:10
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