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To think there should be a minimum age limit on ear piercing
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Forthepurposesofthetape · 11/04/2019 08:33

Was in a well known accessories shop yesterday and witnesses a mum getting her child's ears pierced. The child could have only have been about a year old and screamed the place down. She was so distressed. I really don't understand why it's necessary to do it at that age, it seems so unnecessarily cruel! Angry

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parttimeateverything · 11/04/2019 09:08

I hate it as an infant school teacher because it can mean girls , and it's girls in the vast majority of cases, missing physical exercise . We have an outside agency taking two PE slots a week who refuse to let them join in with earrings. Some girls miss both lessons because an adult forgot to take their earrings out.(This is year 1 and many can't do it themselves and no one else is allowed to do it for them.) It makes me so angry to see them sitting by the side while others develop coordination/ ball skills etc and have fun.

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ginghamtablecloths · 11/04/2019 09:06

I thought there was an age limit but perhaps that's if a child goes into a shop without a parent.
A relative had her child's ears pierced when she was small, saying "then she won't have to bother when she's older" as if it was compulsory, for heaven's sake. Fast forward a little, the forgetful child forgets to put earrings in for a while (not allowed at school anyway) and the piercings heal up. If she wants them she's going to have to repeat the procedure so that was a waste of time wasn't it?

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BurrSir · 11/04/2019 09:06

I think they look lovely but would never get DD’s done out of fear of judgement.

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HavelockVetinari · 11/04/2019 09:05

Yes, definitely. It's completely unacceptable. But you'll inevitably get eejits along in a minute who go on about it apparently not hurting babies (bollocks) and them not getting infected (newsflash - unpierced ears don't get infected) and them not remembering the pain (och aye, that's fine to hurt someone then, as long as they don't remember it, let's all best up Alzheimer's sufferers then).

Anyone with half a brain can understand that hurting a child just so they look "pretty" is a shitty thing to do.

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SallyWD · 11/04/2019 09:05

Ever since my daughter was born I've been under pressure to get her ears pierced (my in laws are Asian). She's now 8 and still doesn't have pierced ears. It gets mentioned every time I see them. If SHE wants them done at 9 or 10 that's fine with me. That's the age I had them done so it feels acceptable to me.

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HowlsMovingBungalow · 11/04/2019 09:02

I don't think piercing should be allowed under age 16.

But then I have witnessed some awful shit with regards to piercing.

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MonkeyToesOfDoom · 11/04/2019 09:02

FuriousCheekyFucker

Yeh, tag the little buggers like cattle.. Hmm

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DoneLikeAKipper · 11/04/2019 09:01

I also agree, I think it should be a choice made by someone who absolutely understands the decision they’re making.

I remember being about 6, my younger sister had apparently ‘decided’ she wanted hers pierced. I was practically forced into the chair to show her how absolutely fine it was to get it done, even though I didn’t want the bloody things. I still remember how much that bloody gun stung over 25 years later. Can’t believe people do that to babies.

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MissBax · 11/04/2019 08:59

Totally agree, it actually sickens me that anyone would torture there child for it to be "cute" or whatever else they think it is. In what other situation would it be acceptable to drive a needle or piercing gun through a person's skin without consent? Can I take my Nana who lives with end stage dementia who can't consent? Pretty sure they'd laugh me out of the shop if I suggested it.

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GetTheStartyParted · 11/04/2019 08:57

I saw this on Facebook. The person saying their daughter will be having theirs done for their first birthday is my brother in law Sad my poor little niece but I daren't say anything. I really cannot understand why you'd do it. I was only 5 when I had mine done but I asked and also knew it would hurt. I think 5 is probably too young but definitely better than 1!

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ShagMeRiggins · 11/04/2019 08:56

I had my ears pierced at one year. French culture, very much the norm. Did the same with our daughter, also in France.

I do understand the points about body autonomy, etc, and would generally agree. But weirdly it doesn’t bother me in the slightest that it was done to me or that we had it done for our daughter. She has no issues with it either.

Perhaps because we’ve never known what it was like to not have pierced ears.

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DoctorDread · 11/04/2019 08:56

@FuriousCheekyFucker 😂

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HowlsMovingBungalow · 11/04/2019 08:52

The shops ( independant and high street chains) I have worked in refused to pierce any child under 7.

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gertrudejekyll02 · 11/04/2019 08:52

I agree. I can't stand it when parents get their baby's/small children's ears pierced!

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Smellslikemiddleagespirit · 11/04/2019 08:51

YANBU

I judge parents who do this harshly. They’re doing it for their own benefit, to make their baby into their little accessory.

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Talcott2007 · 11/04/2019 08:50

Pretty sure there is a 'limit' - I half overheard a family enquiring after this for their very young daughter in what I assume to be a branch of the same well known accessory shop and the assistant and manager both said said that limit was X number of weeks after the either the 2nd or 3rd (couldn't quite hear that part) set of childhood vaccinations and that they would need to bring the child's red book as proof of the vaccinations having taken place so we are talking what 16ish weeks? So there maybe a policy about this limit but frankly I think it is way too young! This is definitely a cultural element with this but I don't personally believe that a child should have their ears pierced until they are old enough to want it/understand what will happen AND capable of managing the aftercare of the healing.

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Stuckforthefourthtime · 11/04/2019 08:50

Yanbu. And also a risk for toddlers and young kids playing and getting them torn out.
Children (a) shouldn't be put through unnecessary pain and (b) shouldn't be given accessories that limit rough and tumble play.

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Slicedpineapple · 11/04/2019 08:50

OoohAyye I think they were being sarcastic

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IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 11/04/2019 08:50

I argued, it should be 16. Old enough then to accept responsibility and to know what they are doing permanently to their bodies.

Children need to be just children, they shouldn't need accessories just to please an adult.

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FuriousCheekyFucker · 11/04/2019 08:49

@ScreamScreamIceCream

The right ear of course!

I do draw the line at using a gun, that's a bit too much. A bow and arrow is far more environmentally friendly. Whilst playing the William Tell Overture on your bluetooth speaker.

Which leads me on to the question. Is 5 years old too old for my daughters first tattoo?

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OoohAyyye · 11/04/2019 08:49

FuriousCheekyFucker are you joking?

Surely if someone wants to make it clear what sex their baby is they'd just dress them in clothing that make it obvious - not get their ears pierced!

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IWannaSeeHowItEnds · 11/04/2019 08:48

I disagree with piercing babies or toddler's ears, since they have no concept of what is happening and can't consent. I think it's fine once a child can understand that it will sting and still wants to have it done. I think being able to express an opinion is more important than an actual age limit, since not all children are the same. DD had hers done at 7 iirc, having asked repeatedly for a year. She totally understood what she was getting.

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Pumpkintopf · 11/04/2019 08:47

I agree, the child should be old enough to give consent- should be the same as any other piercing IMO.

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TildaTurnip · 11/04/2019 08:46

YANBU it’s cruel. Causing pain for what the parents think enhances how their baby/child looks is abhorrent.

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Farmerswifey12 · 11/04/2019 08:46

I think there should be a limit but for ears I think 12 or 13 is a bit extreme. My DD was 7, she was desperate for it, understood it would be sore for a minute, and chose herself it was worth the pain. She now has a few but always her own choice

I absolutely hate seeing babies with it.

I do everything in my power to stop my babies from hurting and crying, can't understand why a parent would intentionally cause a baby pain, even if it is only a minute.

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