DH has changed. For the past 6-8 months I have tried my best to push to one side that he is miserable with his life. I've done everything to try and make things better for him but i'm very slowly coming to the realisation that nothing is changing.
His zest for life has gone, he doesn't want to do anything at the weekends, doesn't talk about the future. Interactions with myself and the dc are limited. When asked about it, he doesn't want to talk about it but will occasionally blame myself (and the dc!) for not appreciating him, not appreciating how hard he works, for not caring about him, etc.
This could not be further from the truth. I have done everything I can to make him happy. We adore him and appreciate him but he doesn't believe anything and I'm coming to the end now. I don't think I have any more to give, I have loved him as much as I can but don't see anything returned.
I want to tell DH once and for all that this needs to stop or he needs to leave. It is heartbreaking, but he needs to make a decision about what he wants, once and for all.
However, I want to give him one last 'speech' to let him know how much we appreciate him. Not to beg him to stay, but after 12 years, I want him to know what a mistake he is making. I want to word the ultimatum in the firmest but kindest way possible, as he has in the past tried to make out that I am 'threatening' him to make a decision.
Please help. This is my last chance to save our family
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noddingnoodle · 07/11/2018 13:20
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