I've tried posting on the sn thread a few times with no responses, so I'm back to AIBU again because I got an overwhelming number of responses all from people who genuinely wanted to help and offer sound advice and support. Please bear with me as I have rewritten my previous post and some of you may have already read it, but it's a little more organised now...
Hi everyone, firstly I'd like to start by saying I really don't want to offend anyone with my post, I don't know a lot about either condition, however I went to the doctor with concerns about my 4 year old and he said he'll refer me to rule out adhd, however others have said it sounds like asd, sometimes I think my son is totally NT and others I'm not so sure, surely if it was one of these conditions this wouldn't be the case!?
My son has a few sensory issues, he licks things and puts things in his mouth more than other children his age, he could eat constantly and I don't mean your typical 'I'm hungry' he will stand at a table of food and eat and eat and eat and still say he's hungry. He loves being squeezed and tickled, he laughs if you touch him as he says it tickles, he sits on his younger brother and sister and thinks they find it funny, he asks his brother to jump on him and hit him. Still eats play dough, sand, anything not edible.
He is very sensitive to change and likes routine as most children do, he doesn't like people looking at him (but gives good eye contact) he was very distressed about going into school because he said people were looking at him so they've let him go a different way.
He fixates on characters, books and people and is generally very obsessive. He has extremely intense role play where he seems to take on the character whole heartedly. He fixates upon death since learning the Easter story of Jesus and mentions Jesus and death numerous times a week, he told me I'm not allowed to have any more birthdays as he'll die and I won't have a mummy.
He has a crazy long term memory and learnt to recognise his numbers from a really young age (but he's not particularly good at understanding numbers, it was just another fixation!) and he knew all the Thomas trains with their names numbers and colours at age 2 (again not abnormal)
He trained himself to poo in his nappy at night because he was so scared of going, this has been going on for 2 years (has got much better with various techniques and medication)
He can recognise if someone is cross, sad or happy but it doesn't seem to sink in if someone is displaying that emotion, he is extremely loving to his baby sister but other than that if someone is hurt he doesn't seem to have any reaction.
He can be very aggressive, for example hitting his younger brother repeatedly and screaming because he said something was red that wasn't.
He has meltdowns up to 10 times a day on a bad day where it is impossible to reason with him, but he does eventually calm down. He had a 45 minute meltdown the other day because he couldn't understand why his brother was going in a pram when he doesn't usually and was asking to go in the pram himself and asking to be a baby. He's quite obsessed with being a baby.
He loves the reaction of calling people silly names and is obsessed with private parts.
We are having his hearing assessed as he's always asking us to repeat ourselves or speak louder. He hates loud noises and is terrified of cars on the road.
He is very loud and impulsive and every day has random bursts of energy (running around the house at full speed for 20 minutes at a time) he has bursts of hysterical laughter and finds it very hard to calm down but other times he calmly says things like 'I'm going to punch you in the face'
He gets very angry when he's hurt, rather than upset. He's very very clumsy and doesn't appear to have any spatial awareness. Very very messy eater (much more so than his younger brother) he forgets simple tasks that we reinforce daily and becomes so distracted on his way to do something simple, it can take 45 mins to do a 5 min job, his uncle has dyspraxia, wondering if this could be a factor.
I'm so sorry for the really long post, I just have no idea, the school said the referral could take up to 2 years before we actually get seen, he's obviously very young and there are children with needs much more severe that him, I am struggling though and want to help him as he does show obvious signs of anxiety, is it worth getting an ADOS assessment privately? Is this something that can be done? Is he too young? Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated and please bear in mind I have absolutely no idea what I'm talking about! Xx
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mrssparkle123 · 05/10/2018 10:31
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