Been a lurker for a while but the time has come where I need advice...
Long story short..... I split with my ex nearly 5 years ago, we have a 5 year old dd together. Dd has a disability which he's brilliant with, comes to all her appointments etc etc. Anyhow our relationship has always been rocky, he's nasty to me calls me names called ss on me when dd was a baby because she had a bit of nappy rash, just tried to make my life hell, he met someone new 2 years ago and me and ex had a great co parent relationship, his relationship went to shit and we still got on great for our dd. Until a few months back....he would call me on his weekends with her (EOW) saying she was being a nightmare and bringing her home, missed some of his set days with her until he was ready to see her again, I then suggested he have her one night of the weekend instead which he agreed to. Fast forward to now..... he's becoming a right arse again, letting her down twice this week on his set days with her, called me last Saturday saying she was ungrateful and he was bringing her home and he didn't want to see her until she snapped out of it blah blah blah......there's a lot more to the story but I'll be here forever typing it out. My DF passed away before I was born so I've always been a great believer of my dd having a relationship with her dad until now, I'm at my whits end with it all, dd says she still wants to see him and I feel awful taking it all away from her but I can't sit and watch him let her down all the time, or cut her weekends short because she's 'playing up' (I've caught him lying about it before where she wasn't playing up even though he said she was). Tonight was the final straw for me after a few texts were exchanged I said about him picking and choosing when he wants to see her and his reply was ' well I don't want her picking and choosing when she wants to see me it works both ways' like for goodness sake she's 5!!
Soooooo AIBU to stop contact? Or what shall I do because I feel like I'm stuck at a crossroads.
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hadenough2356 · 04/10/2018 22:30
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