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Manspreader on train

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Dobson4675 · 27/09/2018 14:33

I'm on a train. Man sat next to me is manspreading into my personal space. I'm leaning away so much my back is aching! WIBU to forcefully elbow him to move the fuck out of my space? It's his top half that's the issue. I can't move my left arm without whacking him.

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SamPotatoes · 28/09/2018 22:54

I've taken to just pushing my leg/arm up against them and taking up as much space as them. 100% success rate so far in them shifting awkwardly and moving away.

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QueenDoris · 28/09/2018 22:43

Stab him in the nuts with a biro. He'll probably thank you for it

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DuchessThingy · 28/09/2018 22:27

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Junkmail · 28/09/2018 22:21

Don’t be passive aggressive. Just politely ask him to move.

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MQv2 · 28/09/2018 22:18

What's the acceptable response for female offenders?
I'm confident in bashing male offenders out of the way but worried about the etiquette when it's knob head women

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thenightsky · 28/09/2018 22:13

What woman with bleach?

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clockworklime · 28/09/2018 21:46

Speak up for yourself ffs

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StoneofDestiny · 27/09/2018 22:50

Why not just ask him to move - wake him if necessary. Can't really see why you wouldn't

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blackteasplease · 27/09/2018 18:11

If you are on the seat first, stick something rigid in the divide. I've tried pencils before which are good are pointy.

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blackteasplease · 27/09/2018 18:10

I ask them to move or just sit really rigidly up to the line.

What I want to say is "oh good has someone announced a discounted price for me / women / smaller people (depending on situation)"

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MondayImInLove · 27/09/2018 17:52

I hate this! I am slim and lots of people (mostly men but women also) seem to think it means they can spread on my seat.
No thank you, I hate physical contact with strangers Angry

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SillySallySingsSongs · 27/09/2018 15:28

It so does. Reading the newspaper with both pages spread wide open. Elbow coming over the armrest into your space. Settling into the seat and getting nice and comfy instead of trying to keep your limbs as neat as possible like considerate people do when they're on public transport

That's not exclusive to men. That's people being arses. I've had to ask women before if they could move arms etc.

Instead of elbowing him you could try that radical method of politely asking him

Such an overrated method these days Grin

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Satsumaeater · 27/09/2018 15:23

I always make a point of moving the armrest down but some of our trains don't have them.

It's not just manspreaders, it's anyone who decides they need to work or read with their elbows stuck out.

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Laureline · 27/09/2018 15:23

I put my (heavy) handbag on people like that (eithet on the leg or the arm, depending on the “spreading” bit).
It generally gets the point across. Grin

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Aprilshowersnowastorm · 27/09/2018 15:07

"Excuse me have you seen a Dr about your mahoosive testicles" ?

"Oh I assumed they must be over a seat's width the way you are taking up half my seat also."

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Grated · 27/09/2018 15:04

Instead of elbowing him you could try that radical method of politely asking him

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LostInShoebiz · 27/09/2018 15:01

I like to either swing my bag wildly as I sit down and accidentally jostle the leg back over or I sit with my leg pressed against there’s until they move back.

I know everyone was saying that woman with the bleach was awful this morning but when I saw that I felt something.

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JassyRadlett · 27/09/2018 14:49

Ugh. I had one in a seat facing me yesterday. He slid down in the seat, stretched his legs out one side either of my two (politely pulled back so not to encroach on the limited space) and slid further down the seat during the journey because he fell asleep. His feet ended up under my seat and his legs kept slipping so they rested on my knees. I gave them a good jerk away each time but he didn’t adjust his posture.

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Bluelady · 27/09/2018 14:49

I just ask them to stop it but I'm a formidable old trout and they tend to just change seats.

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Lottapianos · 27/09/2018 14:47

'Manspreading doesn't involve top halves'

It so does. Reading the newspaper with both pages spread wide open. Elbow coming over the armrest into your space. Settling into the seat and getting nice and comfy instead of trying to keep your limbs as neat as possible like considerate people do when they're on public transport

Well done for asserting yourself OP!

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EmpressAdultHumanFemale · 27/09/2018 14:44

I usually shove my bag in between us. It's never actually in his seat space so he can't legitimately object.

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Dobson4675 · 27/09/2018 14:42

So pedantic! I know manspreading is legs but think about it, he's a man and was spreading his arms beyond socially acceptable norms. Same difference. If it makes you happier he was also manspreading in the traditional sense.

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TenForward82 · 27/09/2018 14:41

Cross Post. Good-o.

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Disfordarkchocolate · 27/09/2018 14:41

I really hate this. When it happens I just happily elbow away, when they move I take the space I need and I can keep it up for hours without stopping. I sound a bit grumpy but if I pay for a seat I want the whole seat!

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TenForward82 · 27/09/2018 14:40

"Wake up, mate, you're leaning on me." Loudly.

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