I had low contact with DSis since 2013, and posted about it on here, and was told - very clearly about how NC means NC, etc. And I 'got' and took on board the advice I was given, and have since dropped contact with DSis because of that, and we are now more-or-less NC.
BUT
When it's family, surely there are some times when you do HAVE to communicate???? My DMum is nearly 70. I dread it, but at some point she is going to die. Unless me or DSis pop our clogs before she does, we're going to have to bury or cremate her and have some kind of service/ceremony/event to celebrate and remember her. How can this happen if we aren't talking? Why should one of us have a claim on what happens over the other? Does one of us not attend our mum's funeral? Who decides who 'wins' or 'loses' over things like that?
MN finds it very easy to say things like "LTB" or "ditch that friend" or "Go NC". All that is easy over a keyboard.
What's the reality with family when you don't talk but there are areas where you really need to or should?
Whenever I contact my Dsis, she tells me "you chose to go NC, so don't contact me". Um yes. But DMum is taking the all the grandkids on holiday and has asked me to drop them at the airport. I've asked DSis if she wants me to take/pick up her kids. She replies to emails by saying "you're saying you want NC, so be NC, do what you want".
I want to say it would be rude/entitled to expect me to do airport run(s) without asking me first.
DH says if she won't say she wants me to do this then not to do it, but I don't want to 'punish' DNiece and DNephew.
I miss my DSis and wish things weren't as they are, but they are, and it's grim.
So, what do I do about - potentially - running my DN and DN around without being asked or thanked? And NC in general?
How do you NC-ers manage bereavement? Funerals? Graduations? Weddings???
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KeepServingTheDrinks · 29/06/2017 00:26
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