putting my 2 1/2 year to bed with no dummy ?

[cjs76]

Trying to get him to sleep with no dummy for the 1st time - is he still too young should I give in? feel very bad - I gave it to him to start with....

[AloysiusBear]

ZOMBIE

[staceym11]

i'd just go back to your normal now with the food, he wont see the correlation between you not giving the treats and him not having the dummy (and wanting it) it may even take his mind off the not havign a dummy as he's now not having treats which will probably be more distressing!

[cjs76]

food mostly - he has never been the best eater but been allowing him to have yoghurt and a few sweets when he hasnt really eaten a proper dinner and dont want it to carry on now its been 4 days and he seems to be used to the no dummy and dont want it used to these "treats"

[BibiThree]

We took DD dummy away at 22 months. She'd only had it for naps until then but was getting to the point where she wanted it all the time. We told her that there were babies who needed the dummies and as she was such a big girl now (just gone from a cot to a bed) she'd have to give the dummies to the new babies soon. She was absolutely fine with it. We had a few unsettled nights but she soon forgot all about them.

I'm sure it would be harder with a child who is v attached to their dummy, but we got by with lots of praise and attention for being so grown up, better than any present imo.

[staceym11]

what are you giving in to him about? your not a mean mummy you are just changing a tiny bit of his world, like walking a different way to the park, they may not like it to begin with but it doesnt take them long!

[cjs76]

ok are doing pretty well so far, bought the present doing the stickers etc.... but feel I am giving into him a bit too much as still feel bad for having taken it away akthough I know its for his benefit longer term - he still asks for it now and then but it is getting less and less any thoughts on siving in too much?

[Aero]

Having successfully ditched the dummy with ds1 and dd at around 2.5 yrs, ds2 was a whole different story. We did the whole Father Xmas thing and all the dummies were gone, and presents replaced them, but two weeks into the new year, ds2 was still crying/waking in the night and asking for them. We got to saturation point when we were due to go out one night and leave MIL babysitting all three of them. I felt I couldn't leave her with this problem, so I 'found' one dummy Santa had forgotten to take. He settled again in no time and I guess he just wasn't ready to part with it altogether yet. He turned three in January and still needs it at night, but there's no way he'll be getting it back during the day again. I feel that just like the toilet training (another story), he'll be ready when the time is right (after months of worrying he'd never get it, he did it over night when he was ready) and I don't want to stress either him or ourselves more than we need to at this stage. I guess I'm saying that what works for one, doesn't necessarily work for all, so if he can do without it fantastic, go with it, but if not, don't beat yourself up as a parent for not bring able to get him off it iyswim.

[cjs76]

bless him! my ds will not stay in his bed at that time and im always so worried he will wake ds2 i just let him come in our bed but they were both awake this morn so no hope

[Lilliput]

He kept on saying he wanted to get up, he'd obviously been cryng quite a while before I woke up because he was really sobbing. I gave him a drink of water, he calmed down a little then said he wanted some medicine, so I gave him a tiny bit of calpol and he lay back down and I left the room. I feel a bit bad for doing that.

[cjs76]

ok most of the time asked for it quite a bit but just distracted him and reminded why he had that lovely toy!!
No nap yesterday as wanted him to be extra tired and he didnt moan too much at bedtime, ive been up since 530am with both of them today - no getting them back to sleep, took them in the car so he had an hour nap today will see how it goes tonite leaving it to DP need a bit of a break DS1 is a bit tearful tonite also hoping he will get up in morn. Thanks for asking x
so did your's go back to sleep? how did you manage it?

[Lilliput]

How's things been cjs? My ds woke at 5.30am and took quite a lot of persuasion that it was not time to get up, in the past I would have just shoved the dummy back in and left him to it.

[cjs76]

Thanks for that I am almost inspired to take away from ds2 6 months as well but he has just started teething will do by a year tho x

[Lilliput]

We ditched the dummies on Monday, ds turned 2 last week. Have a look at my thread to see how easy it was here

[staceym11]

thats fine, still fresh in my mind as less than a month but she seems to have done well, hopefully your little boy will too! good luck!

[Bozza]

cjs76 I think you are doing really well. Hope he enjoyed his present.

[cjs76]

staceym11 - thanks for your input was really worried but he seems to be ok with it now, he told his nana he didnt have it anymore and was really pleased with himself x

[staceym11]

thats the way i explained it, babies need them big girls/boys dont!

glad you stuck to it, if you give in now it wil only make it harder when you do finally do it!

[cjs76]

ok went on strong all day although was asked for serveral times - bought him a nice present and kept reminding him why he has it - used stickers and distracted him with other things is now asleep for the 2nd night, nearly gave in but hoping we can carry on like this - baby still got his but seems to understand that he is a baby and that is ok

[cjs76]

ok going to try the toy in the morn and then the rewards etc... Thanks for all the tips x
Going to try alot earlier with ds2

[staceym11]

give him a little something tomorrow (maybe a toy thats been left at the bottom of the toy box and hes forgotten it) and then tell him if he goes the whole weekend (ie till daddy goes back to work monday) without it then he will get another present! do this for a while but make the intervals longer iykwim, eventually they forget all about it!

generally when they stop asking for the dummy the forget about the rewards!

[cjs76]

he is asleep without it - do I go on strong 2moro and go and buy a present now it has gone?

[staceym11]

my dd was 2 years 3 month and we gave it up. that was 3 weeks ago, we'r now dummy free.

the dummy fairy came and took them all away in my house (we had a dummy hunt the day before and put them in a special pot) then a present was left. then we did sticker rewards and after 7 she got another toy, kept doing stickers until she stopped asking for them, and as i say now 3 weeks on we'r dummy free and even the stickers stopped last week. persevere, it'l be worth it!

[cjs76]

He thinks we have lost them but is upset bot it and keep asking for it think I will give it another 10 mins

[FrannyandZooey]

Oh if he understands what you are on about, and you really have lost it (and he knows you have), and he isn't really upset, I would probably go for it