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AIBU?

To think the parents should have been supervising this toddler

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Aeroflotgirl · 13/08/2015 20:42

Today we went to a big open farm, we were in this enclosed play area with sand and tractors, quite a big play area with a gate that could easily be opened by the toddler, not really a deterrent. Myself and dd carer saw this young child on his own, about 18 months to 2 years max. We and another family were in the play area, we asked the fami,y if he was their son, they said no. No other adults near or around the play area so we waited about 10 mins to see if somebody would come to fetch him, nobody did, so my carer waited with my kids and the boy, whilst I fetched a member of staff who came.

Mum came running from round the corner and said he was her child. I then. I told her we were worried as he seemed on his own you can never be too careful etc. she then said he's ok her, and turned her back and went in the opposite direction towards the rock climbing, leaving her ds on his own in the play area. We hung round the play area for a bit more, the boy there with us too. She came back about 5 mins later, and walked off with her ds. I sent this a bit young for this kind of thing. Or am I being a bit cotton willing [cinfused]. He could have pushed the gate door and wondered off, or snatched.

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Aeroflotgirl · 13/08/2015 23:51

I agree sally he did not appear distressed, but who knows what he was feeling not having mum near in the vicinity.

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Aeroflotgirl · 13/08/2015 23:49

ego me too, I do keep an eye on these things.

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Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 13/08/2015 23:47

If a 10 year old panics at not seeing mom, imagine a younger child? If you see it from any perspective then it should be from the toddlers? Left alone, can't see mom/siblings, strangers asking them questions, not good , personally I wouldn't want to worry another adult into watching my child at any age.

Egosumquisum · 13/08/2015 23:36

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Aeroflotgirl · 13/08/2015 23:30

ego that's AIBU in general, you hear one perspective. I can only tell it from my perspective, who knows what the mum's opinion is.

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Beyourbest · 13/08/2015 23:29

I've seen it numerous times but never leave my young kids alone, I don't leave my 5 year old alone like that, it's just irresponsible.

Aeroflotgirl · 13/08/2015 23:28

No sally I don't, but you cannot place your trust in a very small child to keep,themselves safe.

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Egosumquisum · 13/08/2015 23:27

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Aeroflotgirl · 13/08/2015 23:26

Yes at least he does, I get a crying and wailing if where's mummy where's mummy round the house .

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Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 13/08/2015 23:25

You don't know the child either.

Aeroflotgirl · 13/08/2015 23:24

Ego I don't know how mum was assessing the situAtion. But we just saw a little toddler appearing alone, so took action by staying with him and getting a helper.

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Aeroflotgirl · 13/08/2015 23:22

ego I have that probes with dd8, she also has high anxiety, I cannot go to the toilet or garden without a cry of where's mummy . Leave me alone ddfoar a little bit.

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Egosumquisum · 13/08/2015 23:22

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Aeroflotgirl · 13/08/2015 23:20

No needs I did not see any signs

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Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 13/08/2015 23:19

So 10 year old wants mom near but 18 months is fine to leave?

NeedsAsockamnesty · 13/08/2015 23:15

Did the play area or place have no instruction signs about supervision?

I've never been to a children's based area that didn't have signs all over it telling people not to leave under 8's unattended

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Aeroflotgirl · 13/08/2015 23:08

ego I am pleased that I did what I did, yes we have different ways of parenting, i am glad the mum came back for her ds. Yes I woukd love to leave ds3.7 to run freely in a sift play on his own but can't as he has dev delay and is a bolter, I have to be near to see what he's up to. Oh well in a couple of years time Mabey.

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Egosumquisum · 13/08/2015 23:04

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Aeroflotgirl · 13/08/2015 23:00

I am glad as a community most of us look out for one another. I would rather be safe and think why did I not do that!

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Aeroflotgirl · 13/08/2015 22:59

ego how woukd a child that young understand concepts like that when a lot of older children don't!

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Aeroflotgirl · 13/08/2015 22:57

ohhello what is wrong with being concerned for a young child. It takes a community and all that. No I am the most lazy parent really, ds was left unsupervised in our locked garden from about 18 months, whilst I supervised from the kitchen. Yes I woukd live to do that with dd 8, but she has ASD and developmental delay, so yes have to be a bit more cautious.

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Ankleswingers · 13/08/2015 22:57

I honestly don't care about statistics or what another thinks regarding unsupervised children.
For me, my Children are never ever out my sight and they never will be when they are that little.

Of course the parent should be supervising their own child.

How ignorant and silly to think otherwise.

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