I've lost my job within the last few days, (couldn't afford to keep me on) it was only casual and I hated it so in a way its a relief but obviously money worries are rife. I saw an ad asking for a cleaner 3 days a week, good hourly rate and local so rang him as I thought it would be something while I look for a job related to what I've trained for. He said to come this morning to meet him.
I did, and he answered the door in his underwear which was odd, saying he'd only just got up! He is 89 btw and disabled. He got dressed then we chatted, him explaining he'd like ironing and general chores done. It was all fine except...he made a couple of odd comments about hoping his ex wife doesn't come over and 'catch us' (they're separated), and when showing me around said in a weird voice: "come into my bedroom..."
Whilst I did his ironing he sat in front of me and stared at me. The entire time. I tried to make conversation, I have anxiety and it was making me extremely nervous. He said a few other comments relating to sex and something vaguely homophobic. I felt vulnerable and sorry for him at the same time as he struggles with mobility and seems very lonely.
The problem is that men seem to be very inappropriate with me, I seem to attract older men who make lewd comments, and in the case of a previous job, unwanted touching. Its happened MANY times throughout my life, mostly men 20 or so years older than me.
My grandad abused me as a child, this man today looked a lot like him which didn't help, but what I wondered was, would I b U to tell him to piss off if he makes weird comments next time I go, or am I just being over sensitive??
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Ugh absolutely sick of creepy men
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MakeThemEatCake · 23/07/2015 13:43
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