We've been divorced several years.. no real issues between us now.. frequently need to liaise with each other due to the DC..
This name thing has only just recently started to bother me even though he's been planning his wedding since last year.. DD is a bridesmaid so it (the wedding) is hot convo..
I haven't thought of myself as MRS B since the divorce.. or before even, because I took 2 years to instigate the divorce due to not wanting to cite the reasons (his adultery), for the sake of the DC.. so I am MS B (even though, yes I know, MS sounds like a stunted wasp noise...) generally. except of official stuff like for the bank. (Hate being called MRS B tho.. makes me a bit sick..) But then I started thinking.. ..his new wife (a nice lady.. I like her much more than I him!) IS going to be MRS B... she will be entitled to the name.. and here I am.. stuck being a sort of "hanger on MRS B". Bit sad and pathetic.. no?
But worth name changing? (If onlt it was as easy as on MN!) And what to? I haven't had my maiden name since I was 19.. and got married for the first time. (NOT to Mr B!) Subsequently, I already have a different surname to my oldest.. but the same name as DD and DS2.. which I guess I quite like. I have had this name for 16 years now.
I don't feel I SHOULD have this name now though.. I feel a bit as if I don't have one at all.
I have a DP.. committed, long term.. but marriage not on the cards. Think I am done with marriage (so I tell myself )
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To feel a bit naff to still have my ex H's name when he's about to remarry?
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KrispyCakehead · 05/06/2013 14:43
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