...to give DD the 'Master' bedroom?

[LtEveDallas]

Been house hunting for a while and last weekend have found two possibilities that tick most of our boxes. One we could pretty much move in tomorrow, one would need quite a bit of fiddling with.

In both cases DH and I have said we would give DD the 'Master' bedroom with en-suite. The first house has 3 very good sized doubles and the master is pretty huge, the second has smaller doubles, one of which we would extend into the garage to make a better sized room for us whilst DD has the (current) master.

To a man, everyone we have talked to about it has exclaimed their horror that we would give up the 'master' for DD . Comments range from 'it would be too big for her' to 'why would you give up an en suite' and a couple of 'too big for her boots' 'spoiling her' and 'rod for your own back' stuff.

I don't get it. I don't like en suites, wouldn't use one and DH couldn't care either way. I think DD would get more use out of a bigger bedroom, especially as she grows up (she's 8 now).

Have I broken some unwritten rule? What's the issue I must be missing? Even family are muttering and sneering about it.

[OctopusWrangler]

I'm about to move my boys into the biggest room. All the toys will then magically disappear from downstairs. Please.

[CecilyP]

Haven't read the whole thread but when we moved to our current house, we gave DS the large double while DH and I had the small double. It has worked fine because DS had a lot of stuff which he needed to keep in his bedroom whereas we just slept in our bedroom. No-one we know has ever sought to comment on it. Perhaps by referring to the larger bedroom as 'the master' you are setting up some sort of expection.

[goodiegoodieyumyum]

Yes Dutchy I am moving to Flevoland, how did you guess having seen all the activities my kids can do I am really looking forward to it, plus the much bigger house and garden. I did grow up in Australia so maybe that is why I don't mind modern and having to travel further to go shopping.

[goodiegoodieyumyum]

Yes Dutchy I am moving to Flevoland, how did you guess, having seen all the activities my kids can do I am really looking forward to it, plus the much bigger house and garden.

[comelywenchlywoo]

Our DS has the bigger bedroom. We were all in together when he was born, when he got bigger andIrealisedhowmuchstuffhehad-- we moved out the room into the smaller bedroom.

In our new house DS will have the slightly larger room and we will have the smaller room with the ensuite - no way could he be trusted with a private bathroom all his own!!!

I think it makes perfect sense to give children the larger rooms for all their toys etc. It would depend on the child re ensuites tho. Mine could not be trusted, but of course many other children would be fine.

Just ignore your family and go with what makes the most sense for you OP

[dutchyoriginal]

Hi Goody, i assume you're moving to Flevoland? [Grin]

[SorryMyLollipop]

I have been considering this. I am a single parent with 2 dds who share a room, the spare room is their playroom but I am expecting another child and it makes more sense for DCs to have the biggest bedroom with ensuite.

[applepieinthesky]

DS is only six months old and he has the biggest bedroom. He has so many things already and we only have one reception room downstairs so it works best for us. If he had the smaller room then we would have to have more toys downstairs and they would take over our house. Plus we only have two bedrooms and will hopefully have a second child who he will have to share with so it makes sense.

I know plenty of people who let their children have the biggest bedrooms and I've never thought it was odd.

[AmberSocks]

I dont agree with the oldest gets the biggest room thing,if anything they need less space as they get older,as their belongings become smaller.and more expensive!

[AmberSocks]

my dd has the master bedroom,she is only 3,we have 4 bedrooms,3 are double and 1 is a smallish room,my two boys share the 2nd biggest room.im not sure where ds3 will go as hes only 8 months and still in with me,and id dc5 is a boy then we may have to reshuffle,but its a girl they will share with dd.

[Oldraver]

I have the biggest bedroom (dont like calling it 'Master') but when we moved into this house and DS had a bedroom with en-suite I was surprised how people thought we should keep this as a guest room and DS have the bedroom without

[LtEveDallas]

Merlincat, unfortunately one of the comments was on a par with what you are doing - "DSD should have the biggest bedroom as she's the oldest". If she lived with us I'd probably agree, but as she doesn't... I'd agree with you though in normal circumstances.

It's so strange. Because this is the first house we've bought it seems that everyone has an opinion. Maybe I should have just bought the darn thing and called "Surprise" when it was all over

[BlackholesAndRevelations]

Our en suite has a window. Never in a million years would I ever buy any house that had a bathroom with no window!

[AdoraBell]

YANBU although I want the biggest bedroom as you've found, many many people won't agree. Just do what suits your family.

[ChewingOnLifesGristle]

It'll be your house, so use the rooms as you please...

I'd find it odd though if I'm honest and I was being shown around your new house.

I know of someone who did similar but the room the parents ended up in was much smaller. Plus they had 2 dc and no2 ended up with the box room. I can imagine that could cause future friction.

[failingatlife]

I kind of feel the same as you, OP about ensuites but would love to live in a house with more than one toilet. Sadly, barring a lottery win it is very unlikely.

[LtEveDallas]

It will probably only be a few years until your DD is spending hours in the bathroom

Oh yes, definately. DD is in the "Oh my God mother, do I have to have another bath stage ATM. But I remember this with DSD and now I can't get her out^ the bathroom!

I quite like the idea of having a bathroom without toys, ducks, nit shampoo etc cluttering up the sides. DD can have all that shite in her own bathroom and leave the shared one all minimalist and clean for the rest of us

[MrsOakenshield]

PuppyMonkey - , we're looking at some new builds and they all have bloody ensuites, I hate them, such a waste of space, never have a window and so not properly ventilated - thus, poo smells coming straight into your bedroom. Yuck yuck yuck.

[failingatlife]

While having an ensuite is something I can only dream of, I have given my kids the biggest bedroom in both houses we have lived in. DH & I use our bedroom for sleeping in etc while kids (esp as they get older) spend much more time in their room & tend to have way more stuff so IMO need more space. Its probably the idea of your DD having the ensuite bathroom that people are objecting to more than the bedroom but if you're not bothered about the ensuite I don't see the problem. It will probably only be a few years until your DD is spending hours in the bathroom so at least you wont have the arguments, banging on door etc which I fully expect to get when my 3 under10s hit teenage years

[PuppyMonkey]

I just KNEW this would turn out to have something to do with pooing in a room next to bed. Only on MN

Having said that do what you blummin' like re rooms, nobody's business but your own.

[BlackholesAndRevelations]

We have the en suite but our DD has a much bigger room! Maybe developers agreed with most posters on here, that parents should have en suite but children need bigger rooms for all their crap!

[LtEveDallas]

Dammit SDTG sorry

[MrsOakenshield]

sounds very sensible. And ensuites are yeuch, I don't want pooing to happen in a cupboard in my bedroom!