Yesterday I arrived at my mil's, you can just let yourself in there, no-one uses the door bell and the door is never locked. I let my self in went to the lounge and heard my name so hovered around the door. I heard my mil and sil slagging me off, saying some very upsetting things. Mainly critising my parenting and saying I over react to things all the time, that my dd is spoilt because of me etc etc, it was extremly hard to hear. I left without them ever knowing I was there. I was so upset yesterday. But today I feel really angry. But also I feel maybe it was hard to hear because there was probably (definately) some truth in what I heard, and also some really nasty unnecessary things said. Like saying I am lying about having PND wtf!!! (the only people i have told (about pnd) is mil, dp, my sister and my bf - why would I lie? and it was them that encouraged me to go to the doctors about it)
DP has gone mad and wants to have it out with them. Thing is they were in their own home slagging off their dil i'm sure that this is not a unusual thing for any mil to do from time to time. We do have very different parenting skills, she is very old school and thinks things like the naughty step are ridiculous (and so does sil).
But then I just remember hearing that 'my dd runs rings around me' and is spoiled and I think wtf!?! Why should you even see her!!!! and she said 'she needed our help with dd1 but now she knows what she is doing with dd2 she is pushing us out' and I am making my baby hate her by being over protective of her. Im so confused and upset by the whole situation. Not really sure what to do about it all.
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should I have it out with mil??
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whereiswally · 18/05/2011 09:13
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