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Mumofjz · 17/05/2011 11:01

I'm worrying like mad over something that happened this morning -
Dropped the kids off at school this morning and as i was pulling out of the pub carpark to go to work, i checked my right side to no traffice then checked the left side to enough gap to pull out in to but when i did and looked back right and the lolipop lady was stood in the middle of the road. I stopped in time but did break suddenly and this did give her a shock.... the people then continued to cross the road with her stood there and when she returned back to her side of the road i shouted over to her that i was sorry and was she ok? She nodded yes - i also heard one of the mums ask if she was ok when she was crossing the road to whch she said yes. I then drove off but have been anxious since.

I'm unsure whether to apologies again when i go and pick up the kids and if so what do i say or should i just leave it? Keep thinking what if she's had a funny turn after, could i be done?

What do you think?

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ClipArt · 17/05/2011 16:55

Sorry, didn't mean to be rude! Glad everything is OK.

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Mumofjz · 17/05/2011 15:58

Do you think i'm over worrying??? now i'm worrying i'm worrying too much :o Seriously though, i think it was the shock that i could have harmed this lady (i didn't i know) and she's an older lady and you hear so much about how shocks can affect people after the event..... Any how, saw her tonight at pick up (got there early) and went and said that "i think i may have gave her quite a shock this morning and i'm sorry for that" she was fine about - i was so glad to see her there and know everything was ok... i think i was stressing because i hadn't stopped and properly checked she was ok and hadn't she been i would have definately had known about it (no lolipop lady at school!!!!) would have been a bit of a big deal (in my eyes)

Thanks to everyone, sleep easy tonight now :)

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ClipArt · 17/05/2011 13:05

I'd leave it - you've already apologised.

Agree with DoMeDon, could the over-worrying be a sign that you're stressed in general at the moment?

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valiumredhead · 17/05/2011 12:56

While waiting in a big queue of traffic this morning, when the lights changed the car behind me beeped at me to get a move on. Now, I am pretty nippy in the car, I don't hang around and I had hardly moved my foot off the brake before the twat man behind beeped. So I flicked him the V's and mouthed 'fuck off'................ only then did I realise that it was one of the dads from ds's school. Oops! So I should be the one worrying , not you OP

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DoMeDon · 17/05/2011 12:46

Sounds like you have other worries than this TBH. How is your self-esteem? (genuine question) To be so worried over this and about what everyone may think of you seems a lttle hyper-sensitive (genuinely not meaning to offend here)

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Mumofjz · 17/05/2011 11:29

Thank you so very much you've all made me feel much better -i think the biggest thing is that i see her daily, it wasn't just some random person and i can't get over (until i see her i think) what if she's not there tonight when i pick up, what if i've caused her unnecessary harm, it would get round like wild fire in the school playground :(

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SenoritaViva · 17/05/2011 11:15

YABU to keep worrying. Calm down, I understand these things give us an awful fright. I think you did the right thing by saying sorry and asking if she was OK and I don't think it would go amiss to say sorry again this afternoon.

Now forgive yourself, nobody got hurt and next time you'll remember there's a popping up lollipop lady in the vicinity..

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Hassled · 17/05/2011 11:13

Lollipop people are going to be used to sudden breaking and unpredicatble driver behaviour - it must come with the job. If you stand in the road all day you'll be well used to this sort of thing. So she probably had a momentary shock but will be fine.

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DoMeDon · 17/05/2011 11:12

I think it was a mistake and you should forgive yourself.

Make the effort to go over and see she's alright as it will make you feel better but, as valium said, you did stop. Go easy on yourself.

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valiumredhead · 17/05/2011 11:07

The important thing to remember is that you DID brake and you didn't run her down. Apologise if you see her. I'm sure your nerves are more shredded than hers tbh.