DHs step-Mum has been staying with us on and off since the middle of March. (DH is from a different continent, so long-ish visits are pretty much to be expected).
She and DH went away for a week (to sprinkle FILs ashes), which meant I had to have my Easter visit to my parents just with DD as DH couldn't take any more time off. I had a week to myself while they were away, but ended up very ill & spent most of it in bed.
Other than last night (I got in from my parents late, step-MIL is away until this evening), I haven't had more than 5 minutes alone with DH since the middle of March - and we still have another 2 weeks to go.
The thing is - she's really the perfect house guest. She gets on great with DD, who worships her. She helps out around the house - almost too much - I'm beginning to get irritated with her rummaging through the laundry basket during the day to put on washes - my routine is do an evening wash and hang it up in the morning before work. She makes dinner sometimes, which is lovely, but often I've plans for what should be for dinner - and because we've been either entertaining her, or I've been ill, I haven't had a chance to do a full supermarket shop in ages. She's very comfortable in the house, and goes with the flow, which is lovely, but she gets up very early and goes to bed after us, so I feel she's just there all the time.
And this weekend we're taking her to one of my favourite towns, one I'd hoped to get to by myself during my week alone, but I was too sick - we only get there about once a year or so. We'll spend the time following her around & I won't get to do the things I need/want to do.
I'm 22 weeks pregnant too, so may not be in the most rational mood. (And I really want to get a chance to start sorting/planning for baby, but can't do that either)
AIBU to just want my space back?
AIBU?
to just want my house back now...
vvviola · 27/04/2011 09:43
AgentZigzag have you a spy camera in our house or something? We've both been sitting tapping away on our laptops, with the occasional "oh, listen to this" and "did you hear?" since DD went to bed 
You just sound so patient, not being able to switch off and talk crap with DH would do my head in.
I bet you won't talk to each other for about a week now
Revel in the silence and privacy 
Oops - I didn't even realise there were more posts here!
As I updated on another moany thread - she left this morning.
I really do appreciate all the things she did when she was here, but I was beginning to feel a bit like a guest in my own home. And while I didn't quite intend sitting around in my pants, it's nice not to have to worry about being 'proper' all the time.
duckypoo I do get on with her, I did share my interests with her (actually got her re-interested in a hobby I do that she used to do), and I didn't for a second dream of letting her know I was getting a little antsy. Any time I felt myself getting a bit impatient, I'd go and have a bath, or blame pregnancy tiredness and head to bed.
I just, as someone who at the best of times even with DH & DD needs some silence and space to recharge, wanted my space back. (DH incidentally, said the same the other day)
She's always 100% welcome here, but hopefully next time it will be for a shorter visit
I sympathise, I really do - I have guests from overseas sometimes and some are nice, others less so. But you do get weary of even the nice ones who help out.
Sometimes you just want to "let it all hang out" don't you? @ "sitting around in pants"
Do as others suggest - ask her to babysit for you to have a night out. I bet she'll jump at it. Remember - she may appreciate some time alone too because you can get weary being a guest as well!
Yanbu to want to have your home back to yourself, but you would be unreasonable to get huffy: she's doing her best to be a good guest, just try to appreciate all she does even if it's not the way you'd do it.
Hang on in there, it's nearly over.
hehe at your last post ducky
I'll get down from this horse now shall I? It's very high up here
Oh god I'm going to be the MIL from hell aren't I, I'll be all "just get the hell over yourself you idiot" 
Hopefully I'll just think it.
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