In a way, at least.
Someone I know has been having an affair with her boss at work, a married man, for 9 years. She is single, having left her DH (apparently) a short while prior to the affair beginning and has two DC aged 13 and 17.
The married man has been spending 3 nights a week, plus some weekends with this woman, who has aksed him to leave his wife numerous times, with the excuse usually that he couldn't because of his DC. They havbe split numerous times when he refused to leave and always started the affair again after a short period.
Last year his wife found out and rang his 'other womans' house calling her names. He ended it, then again they started seeing each other soon after. He then moved in with the other woman a few weeks ago, saying after almost a week he needed to go and sort something out at 'home' and would be back later. He never came back, only ringing later to say that he wouldn't be coming back, was in the car with his wife (on speakerphone) and as his DC (now almost grown up) now knew about the affair and wouldn't speak to him, him and his wife were going on holiday for a week and he wouldn't be back at work as he was leaving the company.
A week later, the bigger boss came in to work and told the 'other woman' that her boss would not be leaving and this made things very difficult at work now. She is worried she may lose her job.
I don't see how they can force her to leave and I do feel somewhat sorry for her, but a part of me really believes she's only reaping what she's sown. Her DC, particularly the younger one have built relationships with this man and she has allowed him to play a huge part in their lives. They always knew he was married, but they are obviously upset by all this.
AIBU?
To Think This Woman Deserves All She Gets?
judgeyoldtrout · 18/04/2011 15:05
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I can understand how you feel a little OP. I used to be friends with a woman but fell out with her because she was seeing a married man and had been for over a decade. I spoke to my friend about it, and amongst other things that totally changed my opinion of her, she said that she 'didn't give a shit about his wife's feelings' 'I want married man and if his wife and her daughter loses their home because married man leaves her, I couldn't care less, I don't think his wife should get anything at all, she hasn't worked for years'.
I realised I couldn't be friends with someone with so little regard for herself or another woman who had done nothing wrong to her. I also found it hard to listen to her excitedly exclaiming that married man had just texted her to ask if she'd like 'her cunt stretching tonight' with a huge grin across her face. My ex friend was blatantly proud of her ability to please married man 
and as far as I know, she is still seeing him. It is a sad sad situation.
I haven't spoken to her in a good few years now, but my sympathies lie with this man's wife and daughter alone.
I remember asking my ex friend what she would do if his wife discovered his sordid dirty affair and confronted her, but she was so deluded, she honestly believes that wives never ever confront mistresses, only boot out the errant husbands. Her reasoning is that wives are only ever angry with their husbands when they discover the affair.
I tend to distance myself from people who have such corrupt moral codes tbh although I appreciate you probably can't do this as easily if this woman is a family member.
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