Skip to main content
Skip to main navigation
Skip to talk navigation

Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Unflip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Saved Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Unflip

1 2 3

AIBU?

to not want ds1 to go on an airplane at 3 years old?

72 replies

astragirl · 16/04/2011 20:10

Ds1's dad stated today that he wanted to take him on an airplane to Scotland for a wedding in August. He wants to pick him up on a Friday and bring him back on the Sunday (the dad doesn't live with us, long story, but sees him Saturday - Sunday every fortnight). Don't know why I'm stressing about it but am worried that for ds, like what if he doesn't enjoy it, what if he's scared? AIBU or should i just deal with it?

OP posts:

Report

AitchTwoOh · 17/04/2011 21:25

lol, it was absolutely HILARIOUS, the other passengers' faces... incidentally i have discovered that the thing to do while landing in turbulence is to take your feet off the floor and let them hang in mid-air. you look like a bit of a twat but it means you don't feel any bumps through the fuselage other than through your arse, which is not as bad. seriously, try it next time folks and thank me...

gorionine · 17/04/2011 19:42

Aitch Ds2 did that in the plane, asking "when are we falling" instead of"when are we landing?" We were travelling with BIL who is very scared of flying and I have never seen another human being getting so white so fast!

Cymar · 17/04/2011 18:35

Unfortunately gillybean we tried all sorts of things from pinching his nose while he blew out to yawning to sucking and swallowing on sweets and water. There was nothing we could do to stop it from hurting him. He just has really sensitive ears so, we haven't been on a plane since 2007.

OP, from what I've heard over the years, flying is one of the safest forms of transport so your DS should be fine otherwise.

MadamDeathstare · 17/04/2011 14:27

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

QuintEggSentialPaints · 17/04/2011 14:20

sorry, nothernbog, it was meant to be tongue in cheek....

NoWayNoHow · 17/04/2011 14:09

OP, if you thought that people on here were shouting at you then you've (a) never even looked at the AIBU section, ever, or (b) signed up to MN in the last 5 minutes.

Have a look at some of the other topics in here and what the posters write if you REALLY want to know what it is to be shouted at on AIBU.

AitchTwoOh · 17/04/2011 14:07

agree with georgie, it's bound to stress you out, the thought of your son being a gazillion feet in the air without you... i wouldn't like it. but i think you will have to lump it. your son will be fine by the way, although hopefully won't shout in an excited voice (as dd2 just did) "WE'RE FALLING!" while the plane was coming into land...

dontcallmepeanut · 17/04/2011 14:02

My best friend is 21 and hasn't been on an airplane yet... I'm phoning SS in the morning on his behalf

NorthernGobshite · 17/04/2011 14:00

My dd is 6 and hasn't been on an airoplane yet quint. Does that make me a bad parent? What an odd thing to be surprised by!

QuintEggSentialPaints · 17/04/2011 13:48

What? He is 3 years old, and he has not been on an airplane YET?

Yabu. It is an airplane, not an F29 en route to Libya.

Georgimama · 17/04/2011 13:34

I agree. If you had said "hold my hand, DS is off on an adventure with his dad but I am shit scared of flying/he is my baby and has never been away from home for that long" or something similar then you would have got that. You actually said you didn't know why you were stressing about it and asked whether you should just deal with it.

Bogeyface · 17/04/2011 13:29

BLimey, calm down! no one had a go at you.

You asked if YABU and the opinion is that yes, you are. If you wanted support about being worried then there are other forums that would have done that instead. The fact is that he will be with his dad, having a lovely time and the chances of anything happening to him are incredibly small, alot less than on a car journey of the same distance for example.

gillybean2 · 17/04/2011 11:57

Packet of boiled sweets to suck or a drink to sip sorts that out cymar.

Cymar · 17/04/2011 11:57

Does your DS have sensitive ears? I ask because I took my 2 DC's to Northern Ireland from Wales. DS went ballistic and hated every minute of the 1hr flight, but soon after that, I found out that the change in cabin pressure hurt his ears badly.

shitmagnet · 17/04/2011 09:49

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

mizu · 17/04/2011 09:43

YABU. My two went to Sudan when they were 14 months and 21 months. No problem at all. Would rather they had been a bit older as they would have really enjoyed it.

MmeSurvivedLent · 17/04/2011 09:42

Astragirl
Most of us answered calmly, there were a few FFS but no one shouted at you.

If there was a reason that you were worried about this, then we would understand - for instance if you felt that your DS would not be looked after properly.

shitmagnet · 17/04/2011 09:39

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

dontcallmepeanut · 17/04/2011 09:37

DS has been taking 4 hour flights twice a year since he was 5 months old. I'm terrified of flying, but DS loves the journeys... Don't be such a killjoy. If I can hold back my fears while DS is sat next to me "Oooh, bumpy plane funny!" (whilst mummy is gnawing at nails and leaving imprints in the arm of the darlingb old man next to us) or "ooh, look, DS, we're 30,000 ft in the air" (fuuuuuuuuuuuck!) then surely you can put your fears aside to let a more confident flyer take him

gillybean2 · 17/04/2011 09:22

You should just deal with it. Along with the responses you got here which aren't unreasonable and aren't shouting at you.
When you calm down and think about it you will hopefully see that. However something is clearly bothering you, even if you can't pin your finger on what it is exactly at the moment. Maybe that is what you need to figure out first.

HouseOfBamboo · 17/04/2011 09:20

I suspect it's not so much the plane itself that's the problem, but the fact that it's his first (?) plane journey and you won't be with him? I can understand that actually.

He will of course be fine, but the very thought of plane journeys can make people anxious nonetheless, what with the distance and all as well. So from that point of view YANBU, but I think your best option is just to let them get on with it.

TrillianAstra · 17/04/2011 09:11

If you call that shouted at I suggest you don't post on AIBU :o

Since when is "don't worry it will be fine you silly billy" being shouted at?

Don’t want to miss threads like this?

Weekly

Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!

Email address

Log in to update your newsletter preferences.

You've subscribed!

gorionine · 17/04/2011 08:45

Who shouted at you? asside from the two last post who talk about the thread/another thread(withouut shouting), I can only see people who have given their own experience of flying with babies or toddler and told you it went fine and it was enjoyed.

astragirl · 17/04/2011 08:40

OK OK OK, didn't expect to get shouted at ffs! Thanks for the support.

OP posts:

Georgimama · 17/04/2011 07:49

No, there was that thread about the nanny giving the child ready made M&S pasta (that still makes me chuckle). But it's rare!

Unflip

1 2 3

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.