Thanks to a lively family row centred on calling my mother ?neurotic for minding after all these years?, your mumsnet sanity check would be deeply appreciated. Yes, her early life reads like an ITV period drama gone wrong ? no, I?m not making it up. Facts:
My gran eloped in 1936 from Norwich to Africa, well pleased with herself as she had met the love of her life at a party and was following him abroad, having sneaked a delicious Art Deco wedding dress onto the ship. She and grandfather, who worked out there, married in secret on a rubber plantation.
Her first daughter, my mum, was born in 1937; the couple?s son born ten months later. My grandfather, who probably had malaria and who definitely had a history of sanatorium-level depression, promptly committed suicide. Gran sailed back to Norfolk in early 1939 with the babies (aged 2 and 1) and left them with her own mother.
Then Gran nipped back over the water, instantly married again, and settled abroad with a new baby. She visited the two first kids after five years, kept them for a year (not sure where), then left again taking the child from her second marriage ? mum/uncle returned to their grandparents. Gran finally came back to the UK and took the two kids for good when they were about 10, sending them to boarding school at 11.
Now, even by the standards of those far-off times, do you think this treatment is a bit harsh?
And do you think it?s unreasonable to mind about this after 70 years?
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…to think that even during WWII and the time of evacuees, this whiffs of child abandonment?
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corygal · 29/03/2011 14:40
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