Apologies if I sound clueless but this really is a new world for me and I'm hoping those of you who are more experienced can give me some advice.
I've been dating a lovely man for the last few months (not easy during lockdown but it's been a good way to take things slowly and just get to know each other). Yesterday he finally opened up to me and told me that he's a recovering alcoholic and that he's been sober for 9 years.
I actually suspected that either he or a family member/friend/ex had issues with alcohol as he told me from the start that he doesn't drink but was very cagey about why. So I've always tried my best to be very respectful and I've never drank alcohol around him. When we go out together, we share a big bottle of sparkling water and that's fine with me. I'm not a huge drinker and given a choice of alcohol or him, I'd choose him every time.
So him telling me yesterday that he's a recovering alcoholic was a huge step for us. I thanked him for telling me and he knows I'm there for him but how can I best support him?
I don't want to do anything that makes it harder for him. I obviously don't drink around him. I don't drink much myself anyway, and since dating him, that means I may only have a a drink or two once a month with friends over Zoom. But are there other things I should be doing or not doing to support him? I will talk to him about this further and ask him for his thoughts on this but I wondered if any of you have any advice based on your experience?
Thanks so much for your time reading this, and apologies again if I sound like an ignorant idiot.
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How best to support a recovering alcoholic?
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HundredMilesAnHour · 21/06/2020 17:46
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