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Kids asking for things they can’t have
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Dirtystreetpie · 06/12/2021 00:10

What do you tell your kids or do when their main gift they ask for from FC, that they have been encouraged to write to him and ask for, you just cannot afford?

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cookiemonster2468 · 06/12/2021 14:30

@Dirtystreetpie

What do you tell your kids or do when their main gift they ask for from FC, that they have been encouraged to write to him and ask for, you just cannot afford?

Well why have they been encouraged to write and ask him for it in the first place if you can't afford it?

I feel like you need to be a bit clearer with your kids about what Father Christmas can do, especially if you're on a budget.

If you are getting them to write a letter to Santa then you should say at that point that Santa can only bring small presents. Anything big or expensive they will have to ask you, because Santa doesn't bring big expensive presents.

If you're past that point and they've already done it, well there's gonna be some disappointment whatever you say, but basically just tell them the above, that Santa doesn't bring big gifts and that you can't afford it this year.
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Happy1982ish · 06/12/2021 14:41

I’ve not encountered it yet
But if it happens
I’ll just be honest

“No chance!”

Although it would have to be a very large sum, so I wouldn’t feel guilty and I’m pretty certain they would feel hard done by!

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OakleyStreetisnotinChelsea · 06/12/2021 15:00

He only does smaller things/ stockings her which tend to involve something like 1 £10-15 lego set and little bits and bobs.

However, we've always said that the letter is to give him ideas about the sort of thing you enjoy it isn't to ask for specific things.

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daisypond · 06/12/2021 15:06

Father Christmas only ever does stockings. That’s how it was when I was a child, and how it is with my DC. So, small, not expensive, gifts just to mark Christmas. Otherwise how could he fit it all in the sleigh? And he has to be fair to all children.

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Mummywantsaweewee · 06/12/2021 15:11

It’s a wish list and Father Christmas doesn’t bring everything you ask for so you provide plenty of ideas for him to choose from. Not a list of demands!
I remember if I put down something ott and it didn’t appear beneath the tree I’d just think ah well was worth a cheeky ask but just thought FC thought it was a bit much.

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2bazookas · 06/12/2021 15:21

@Dirtystreetpie

What do you tell your kids or do when their main gift they ask for from FC, that they have been encouraged to write to him and ask for, you just cannot afford?

You just tell them the truth. What they have asked for cost SO MUCH MONEY FC can't afford it.
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daisypond · 06/12/2021 15:32

I think saying Father Christmas can’t afford it, or it costs too much is a bit odd - but I suppose we all do things differently. We always make out that FC either makes stuff or magics it up. He definitely doesn’t buy anything. So, we always remove all labels and shop tags. Mum and Dad buy presents with money, but that’s not what FC does.

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Siouxtse1 · 06/12/2021 15:56

For people that sometimes forget to remove price tags/ labels, we tell the kids that as there are so many children in the world FC and his elves no longer make all of the toys at the North Pole. Think it was 'The Works' a few years ago, that adverised that FC shopped there. We tell the kids he has sponsorship deals with certain shops- he gets the products (up to a certain value and quantity) for free because of his influencing duties.

They will hate me for lying when they find out. I was really disappointed when my parents told me...

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DeepaBeesKit · 06/12/2021 16:12

I do a mix of "father christmas has to deliver to billions of children" together with "mummy and daddy have to pay the bill for what's delivered so father christmas will only ever bring something we can afford".

Luckily because DS doesnt watch any advertising on tv and has only just started school his wants are fairly manageable. He asks for things like a torch and a bag of quality street to himself Grin

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LittleMysSister · 06/12/2021 16:15

My mum and dad always just used to say the same as many here - that something being on the list doesn't mean I will get it, and I would only get a few things from there, not all of it.

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BigYellowHat · 06/12/2021 16:15

Our kids just get a strict budget which they’re told upfront. It varies year to year depending on finances. It works for us and stops the worrying about funding Christmas.

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PrayingForChristmas · 06/12/2021 16:24

Always said in my family
‘We buy the gifts, Santa and elves make them and deliver’

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Happy1982ish · 06/12/2021 16:28

@BigYellowHat

Our kids just get a strict budget which they’re told upfront. It varies year to year depending on finances. It works for us and stops the worrying about funding Christmas.

Would only work for older that understand money , cost, budget
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user1471538283 · 06/12/2021 17:22

I asked for a Sindy dollhouse and I was desperate for it. It must have been too expensive. Instead my DF and I built something similar out of cardboard. It wasnt the same but I played with it for years and it's one of my favourite memories. Might you be able to do something similar?

Or explain that santa has a budget?

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RodneyIsDave · 06/12/2021 17:35

Santa stopped being the main present giver when it occurred to me o got zero thanks for playmobile one year. From then on Santa did their stocking full of sweets and a dvd.

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thelegohooverer · 06/12/2021 17:35

I tell my dc that it’s important not to be greedy especially when they already have a houseful of toys and generous relatives, and Santa has so many other dc to see to.

It not that Santa won’t bring expensive presents/electronics/pets because some of their friends do get these things, just that they have an awkward mother. Which is a factor in many other aspects of their lives.

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TatianaBis · 06/12/2021 18:25

Father Christmas is a socialist who puts lots of nice small things in stockings as he has to provide presents for all the children in all the world. Mum and dad do the big presents.

Or rather was, they’re in their teens now. Still have stockings but no illusions.

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TatianaBis · 06/12/2021 18:26

I tell my dc that it’s important not to be greedy especially when they already have a houseful of toys and generous relatives, and Santa has so many other dc to see to.

Exactly.

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pollymere · 06/12/2021 18:51

Explain that the kids who get these presents from Santa have them bought by the parents who gets Santa to deliver them. Do look for second-hand items though...

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TatianaBis · 06/12/2021 18:58

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I say he can't do expensive things, he has to get around everyone and it wouldn't be fair to ask for something expensive when the kid next door might get a less expensive one.

Mine asked for a £1.5 MILLION supercar Grin

DD has wanted a pony for years. Now she’s 13 she no longer asks for one, but I think she secretly hopes one will turn up.

Kids learn to manage their expectations through childhood. I said this on another thread and was called Scrooge. But unless parents can fork out on Ferraris and ponies, this is just a fact.
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Sameshoe · 06/12/2021 19:56

I always told my children that we the parents bought the gifts then sent them to Santa. They still loved Christmas.

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Christmasbirdchristmasherd · 06/12/2021 20:09

I used to always ask for santa to end wars, world hunger or bring peace before I started listing off my list (with the argos catalogue numbers for clarity). I thought it would send me to the top of the nice list.

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logsonlogsoff · 06/12/2021 20:10

My. DM had this down to a fine art - a combination of steering us towards choosing pressies from the catalogue that she could pay off in instalments and making sure that Santa didn’t deliver extravagant gifts ( like a bike or a console) and a greedy kids who asked for too much ran the risk of getting nowt. We only got toys at Xmas or birthdays so Santa was a big deal.
Now we’re in a position to get our kids the big stuff, and deliberately don’t. They wouldn’t dream of asking for a PlayStation or anything like that for Xmas.
Let alone Santa

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logsonlogsoff · 06/12/2021 20:14

My DSis did cause havoc one Xmas by changing her mind last minute over her main Santa gift that mam had got an old
2nd hand version of and had a local retired handyman refurb to look almost new. I was drafted in to convince her that she DID still want the toy and that it was the coolest ever etc and thank god she went back to her original wish list. That poor old handy man had spent weeks tinkering with it by then!

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Dirtystreetpie · 07/12/2021 00:04

To be clear the letter was written at school

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