Kids asking for things they can’t have
Dirtystreetpie · 06/12/2021 00:10
What do you tell your kids or do when their main gift they ask for from FC, that they have been encouraged to write to him and ask for, you just cannot afford?
updownroundandround · 06/12/2021 07:32
I'd explain to the child that because Santa has to get every child a gift, they couldn't ask for a 'big' or 'expensive' gift, because that would mean another child would have to get a 'smaller' one.
When I told my kids this, I used a cake to explain i.e if you divide it up equally, then all the kids get a 'fair' share, but if you cut some big pieces, then it means the others have to get less.
It worked well with mine. (I also told them that Santa couldn't give live animals as gifts as they would chew all the other gifts in Santa's sack , and this worked great too)
dementedpixie · 06/12/2021 07:25
We used to say that Santa brought the gifts but we paid for them so if we didn't have the money they couldn't get the expensive gifts
UnLunDun · 06/12/2021 07:21
We’ve only ever done “suggestions” for things they’d like, also it has to be the size to fit in a stocking and nothing that has a plug! I’ve had 30 years and seven children doing this, they’ve all loved Christmas. It doesn’t have to be complicated or expensive this way…favourites have included suggestions of a blue and white swirly lollipop, Lego, a Ukulele and tuner, Indiana Jones’s whip, a disco ball.
Anything big comes from us, always.
Honeymint · 06/12/2021 07:14
As a child I asked for a donkey every year. A real one. I asked my parents, I wished on stars, I put it on every Christmas list until I was about 7.
I was never particular upset that I didn’t get one, I don’t know why, maybe I was distracted by my other gifts enough to forget?
I know my friend wanted a giraffe when she was little. My cousin kept asking for a real reindeer, my aunt took him to a petting zoo instead and he seemed happy.
I think the point I’m trying to make is none of us were that upset about not getting those things. All of our parents would tell us a lot in the run up to Christmas that they didn’t think Father Christmas would be able to bring us those things - maybe that helped in not getting our hopes up?
hiredandsqueak · 06/12/2021 07:14
Father Christmas only fills stockings here so if it was something too expensive or unsuitable then I'd explain and point them in the direction of something else.
WildStallyn · 06/12/2021 07:00
In our house mum and dad buy the main present (and if they ask for something unsuitable or over budget we tell them so).
Father Christmas fills their sacks with smaller bits - a couple of £10-20 items from their lists and then the small stocking fillers (book, stationary, sweets, that kind of thing).
Pascha · 06/12/2021 06:52
Depends on the age really. Young children can be fobbed off with Santa doesn't have those kinds of things but now mine are 11 and 8 and don't believe I'm just straight with them. There's a budget and if what they ask is silly money they are told so.
IamChipmunk · 06/12/2021 06:47
Mine do a list with a few things on and we have always said its a wish list not a shopping list!. We also say santa doesnt bring really expensive things as he couldn't afford toys for everyone, he doesnt bring animals, things they already have or things he knows wouldn't fit in the house!
Agree with the second hand option. Facebook or Ebay. Is there a smaller/similar version you could get. If you know its definitely not an option then I would start managing expectations and start directing them to what they can have. Most of my kids list is things Ive pointed out to them!
ComDummings · 06/12/2021 06:41
This is what I say ^
ThatParent · 06/12/2021 06:37
Who encouraged him to write and ask for it?
How old is child?
Theunamedcat · 06/12/2021 06:09
Explain santa has the whole world to provide for he cant afford to buy big expensive gifts for everyone
hivemindneeded · 06/12/2021 05:47
What have they asked for? is it something you might be able to find second hand?
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