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Kids asking for things they can’t have
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Dirtystreetpie · 06/12/2021 00:10

What do you tell your kids or do when their main gift they ask for from FC, that they have been encouraged to write to him and ask for, you just cannot afford?

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 08/12/2021 16:20

A couple of years ago dd1 (3) asked for a real baby - boy or girl, she wasn’t fussy. It had to be explained that FC would never bring babies or animals, because people might not look after them properly.

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toughtoes · 07/12/2021 18:41

But yes I say Santa has a budget and if they get something big they can't get any other presents. That usually puts them off 😂 But DS is confident he is getting a console which is waaaaay over budget, hopefully on the day he'll be ok and excited by what he does get. Sadly still goes on about not getting what he wanted age 3, years of therapy ahead.

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toughtoes · 07/12/2021 18:38

Which one someone might be able to find it on offer? have bought it ages ago and found their ungrateful offspring have gone off that now 😬

I did the Amazon Lego offers, plus they did a thing were I got extra £5 free money for loading my Amazon gift card. So things like that can help. Check John Lewis or Argos too.

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LittleBirdy1 · 07/12/2021 11:57

Can you get him a smaller set of Lego from the same range? For example Lego Star Wars sets start at £10ish right up to £300, same all the other sets to.

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Imdreamingofapeacefulxmas · 07/12/2021 11:53

Some dc ask for elephants, real size helicopter, limo and driver.
We are not sure how fc does it, he does what he can and usually bungs surprises in too.
That's it..

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TurnUpTurnip · 07/12/2021 11:13

This is why my son stopped believing in Santa age 5 as he asked for a Magic wand and didn’t get one! It’s all well and good saying Santa only brings the stocking but I’ve never heard anyone say that till recently on MN so never knew that was a “thing” people so was a bit late to start saying that.

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mam0918 · 07/12/2021 10:53

@logsonlogsoff

My. DM had this down to a fine art - a combination of steering us towards choosing pressies from the catalogue that she could pay off in instalments and making sure that Santa didn’t deliver extravagant gifts ( like a bike or a console) and a greedy kids who asked for too much ran the risk of getting nowt. We only got toys at Xmas or birthdays so Santa was a big deal.
Now we’re in a position to get our kids the big stuff, and deliberately don’t. They wouldn’t dream of asking for a PlayStation or anything like that for Xmas.
Let alone Santa

yeah, when I was a kid people always said 'Shy bairns get nowt' but that always confused me (why would a good, sweet and humble child not get rewarded?) so now as an adult, I firmly believe and teach that 'Entitled/greedy bairns get nowt'.
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Redsquirrel5 · 07/12/2021 02:16

I used to say not to ask for very expensive presents or write lots of things on the lists because then some other child wouldn’t get anything if they were greedy. Seemed to work.

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AnotherOneWithNoGoodName · 07/12/2021 00:58

Santa always did stockings in our house. The main items came from parents/family, and we were told if they couldn't afford something.

If you've had a material change in circumstances and Santa has always brought big ticket items before, then that is different and harder to handle!

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Jumpingintochristmas · 07/12/2021 00:41

Perhaps tell us what set it is… lots of people to help search!

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FusionChefGeoff · 07/12/2021 00:31

Could you play the long game - save an eBay search for it then hopefully 1 will come up in the year for Xmas 2022???

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Dirtystreetpie · 07/12/2021 00:10

And it’s a lego set, he’s seen. So to him it looks fairly low cost but it’s well over our budget. I have told him letters are only to give FC ideas, not wish lists. Can’t find it second hand but will get him lots of other little bits and bobs and hopefully that will help with the disappointment and it will soon be forgotten

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Dirtystreetpie · 07/12/2021 00:04

To be clear the letter was written at school

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logsonlogsoff · 06/12/2021 20:14

My DSis did cause havoc one Xmas by changing her mind last minute over her main Santa gift that mam had got an old
2nd hand version of and had a local retired handyman refurb to look almost new. I was drafted in to convince her that she DID still want the toy and that it was the coolest ever etc and thank god she went back to her original wish list. That poor old handy man had spent weeks tinkering with it by then!

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logsonlogsoff · 06/12/2021 20:10

My. DM had this down to a fine art - a combination of steering us towards choosing pressies from the catalogue that she could pay off in instalments and making sure that Santa didn’t deliver extravagant gifts ( like a bike or a console) and a greedy kids who asked for too much ran the risk of getting nowt. We only got toys at Xmas or birthdays so Santa was a big deal.
Now we’re in a position to get our kids the big stuff, and deliberately don’t. They wouldn’t dream of asking for a PlayStation or anything like that for Xmas.
Let alone Santa

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Christmasbirdchristmasherd · 06/12/2021 20:09

I used to always ask for santa to end wars, world hunger or bring peace before I started listing off my list (with the argos catalogue numbers for clarity). I thought it would send me to the top of the nice list.

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Sameshoe · 06/12/2021 19:56

I always told my children that we the parents bought the gifts then sent them to Santa. They still loved Christmas.

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TatianaBis · 06/12/2021 18:58

@equuscaballus

I say he can't do expensive things, he has to get around everyone and it wouldn't be fair to ask for something expensive when the kid next door might get a less expensive one.

Mine asked for a £1.5 MILLION supercar Grin

DD has wanted a pony for years. Now she’s 13 she no longer asks for one, but I think she secretly hopes one will turn up.

Kids learn to manage their expectations through childhood. I said this on another thread and was called Scrooge. But unless parents can fork out on Ferraris and ponies, this is just a fact.
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pollymere · 06/12/2021 18:51

Explain that the kids who get these presents from Santa have them bought by the parents who gets Santa to deliver them. Do look for second-hand items though...

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TatianaBis · 06/12/2021 18:26

I tell my dc that it’s important not to be greedy especially when they already have a houseful of toys and generous relatives, and Santa has so many other dc to see to.

Exactly.

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TatianaBis · 06/12/2021 18:25

Father Christmas is a socialist who puts lots of nice small things in stockings as he has to provide presents for all the children in all the world. Mum and dad do the big presents.

Or rather was, they’re in their teens now. Still have stockings but no illusions.

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thelegohooverer · 06/12/2021 17:35

I tell my dc that it’s important not to be greedy especially when they already have a houseful of toys and generous relatives, and Santa has so many other dc to see to.

It not that Santa won’t bring expensive presents/electronics/pets because some of their friends do get these things, just that they have an awkward mother. Which is a factor in many other aspects of their lives.

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RodneyIsDave · 06/12/2021 17:35

Santa stopped being the main present giver when it occurred to me o got zero thanks for playmobile one year. From then on Santa did their stocking full of sweets and a dvd.

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user1471538283 · 06/12/2021 17:22

I asked for a Sindy dollhouse and I was desperate for it. It must have been too expensive. Instead my DF and I built something similar out of cardboard. It wasnt the same but I played with it for years and it's one of my favourite memories. Might you be able to do something similar?

Or explain that santa has a budget?

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Happy1982ish · 06/12/2021 16:28

@BigYellowHat

Our kids just get a strict budget which they’re told upfront. It varies year to year depending on finances. It works for us and stops the worrying about funding Christmas.

Would only work for older that understand money , cost, budget
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