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yohobo · 2022-02-25 03:08:49

AMA. I think it'll be therapeutic for me as I'm totally baffled as to why I'm doing it

Rocaille · 01/03/2022 22:07

Can you get rid of the 'lovely man', or will he make trouble for you? I hope you're ok, OP. Remember there's always support here for you, regardless of whether you decide to continue escorting or leave.

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BOOTS52 · 01/03/2022 21:53

Lovely to hear your response and most women are supportive and understanding. As my poor old mum used to say rip (there for the grace of god go I ) anyone of us can find ourselves in situations and it seems like this man has used his power over you and this is something that you can get some help with and try to get away from him. Please do that for yourself for a start and try to make little changes from there. Look after yourself and keep us updated and stay safe.

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Gunpowder · 01/03/2022 19:50

How are you doing @yohobo?

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yohobo · 26/02/2022 13:22

I am overwhelmed with the supportive comments I've had on here. Its my big secret that I've kept for a long time and it feels good to get it out. I'm going to do something about it now. I don't have an issue with sex work, it's more the way I've ended up doing it alongside this man. He's the issue really, not the work. I felt really weak but having some support has given me shove in the right direction. So thanks all

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BOOTS52 · 26/02/2022 04:46

I hope you are ok and sometimes we get caught up in things in life and before we know it the situation is out of control. To those been unkind to the lady there is no need as she is posting for support and not abuse. I hope you find a way that helps you make the changes that you seem to want to do and please do not let this man take you down a darker path and you find the support and help you need to find yourself again. Post again if you need some support on here xx

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yohobo · 26/02/2022 03:30

Yes. I didn’t really realise it was a situation until I started asking. I’m lucky, I have support. Thank you x

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yohobo · 26/02/2022 03:28

@Gunpowder

I agree you aren’t dim. It sounds like this guy has taken advantage of you. It’s not ok.

I hope you can get out if this situation soon.

Thank you, this thread has been a bit of a wake up call. I appreciate your nice comments

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Rainbowqueeen · 26/02/2022 03:19

Best wishes op. You clearly want to make some changes and I hope you are able to do that.

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glittereyelash · 26/02/2022 03:19

Do you have any family or friends who can help you get out of the situation your in?

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Gunpowder · 26/02/2022 03:13

I agree you aren’t dim. It sounds like this guy has taken advantage of you. It’s not ok.

I hope you can get out if this situation soon.

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HirplesWithHaggis · 26/02/2022 03:04

Just seen it. :)

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yohobo · 26/02/2022 03:02

@HirplesWithHaggis

PM me if you want.

Thanks, I have

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HirplesWithHaggis · 26/02/2022 02:58

PM me if you want.

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yohobo · 26/02/2022 02:55

@HirplesWithHaggis

Talk to Women's Aid, or Scot-PEP if you're in Scotland, similar projects may exist elsewhere. Ask on SAAFE.

saafe.info/main/index.php

You're obviously unhappy and need something to change - ditch the "lovely new man" for starters.

Thank you

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yohobo · 26/02/2022 02:54

@OpheliaThrupps

Explain the difference? I think escort is just a nicer way of saying prostitute.

Some people not unreasonably take the euphemism at face value, and think that escorts are paid to escort their clients to cocktail bars, to accompany them to the ballet and to pose as their tall, slender, glamorous, intellectual date at dinner parties, and then to go home to their own bed with £1k in their handbag.

(I don't actually think that job exists. I think it's more straightforward just to say prostitute to avoid misunderstanding.)

Thanks. If I didn't feel shit before!

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HirplesWithHaggis · 26/02/2022 02:48

Talk to Women's Aid, or Scot-PEP if you're in Scotland, similar projects may exist elsewhere. Ask on SAAFE.

saafe.info/main/index.php

You're obviously unhappy and need something to change - ditch the "lovely new man" for starters.

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OpheliaThrupps · 26/02/2022 02:46

Explain the difference? I think escort is just a nicer way of saying prostitute.

Some people not unreasonably take the euphemism at face value, and think that escorts are paid to escort their clients to cocktail bars, to accompany them to the ballet and to pose as their tall, slender, glamorous, intellectual date at dinner parties, and then to go home to their own bed with £1k in their handbag.

(I don't actually think that job exists. I think it's more straightforward just to say prostitute to avoid misunderstanding.)

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yohobo · 26/02/2022 02:37

@HirplesWithHaggis

You're not dim.

Are drugs involved? Are you being pimped in any way - do you keep all your money?

The party line is that we enjoy it and it's a hobby. I shouldn't have posted anything as it's very outing. Thank you to anyone who has contributed. I definitely need to get out of this situation

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HirplesWithHaggis · 26/02/2022 02:32

You're not dim.

Are drugs involved? Are you being pimped in any way - do you keep all your money?

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yohobo · 26/02/2022 02:29

@HirplesWithHaggis

What do you mean by, "the way I started doing it doesn't sit right"? Were you coerced in any way? I see you also say you chose it, so I'm a little confused.

If you're unhappy with what you're doing, stop doing it. I know that's not easy when the money is good, but your mental health is more important.

I don't want to go into details as it's too outing. But basically met a lovely new man, thought I was having a 'fun time' which I was happy with and it's morphed into escorting. Which makes me sound really dim.

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yohobo · 26/02/2022 02:25

@YouWereGr8InLittleMenstruators

OP, I hope you are OK. It's late and the tone of your post makes me worry that you may not be.
Would you recommended this line of work to a female family member such as a little sister or your mother? If not, I hope you find a way to exit and that the circumstances which led you to explore escorting as an income stream change to make your life easier.
And Big, less of the "just", please. How rude and unnecessary.

I sounded curt in my reply to you. Sorry. I'm kind of not ok which is why I posted this. Thank you for being nice and yes when I sort out another income I won't do it

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HirplesWithHaggis · 26/02/2022 02:24

What do you mean by, "the way I started doing it doesn't sit right"? Were you coerced in any way? I see you also say you chose it, so I'm a little confused.

If you're unhappy with what you're doing, stop doing it. I know that's not easy when the money is good, but your mental health is more important.

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yohobo · 26/02/2022 02:20

@thingymaboob

Do you have sex with your clients?

Yes, If that's what they want out of the meeting

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yohobo · 26/02/2022 02:11

@Bigballer

Are you an actual escort or just a prostitute?

Explain the difference? I think escort is just a nicer way of saying prostitute. I get paid a lot. I don't feel proud of what I do. But the way I started doing it doesn't sit right with me

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yohobo · 26/02/2022 02:09

@rwalker

Did you do it out of choice as was it a last resort

Yes it's out of choice.

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