10 ways to feel more confident

Wonder woman

Confidence isn't a personality trait, it's a habit - and one you can easily get into. Mumsnetters recommend everyday things that can give you a real boost

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1. Get in the right frame of mind


"The phrase 'fake it 'til you make it' works for me - I pretend I feel confident, which fools everyone else and carries over onto how I feel."

2. Surround yourself with good people

"Spending time with a particular group of friends always gives me a boost. We laugh, share worries, chat about ambitions and always cheer each other on. Nothing beats time with them for making me feel I'm good at what I do."

3. Remind yourself of what really matters

dad and child playing

"I find playing with my children is one of the best things I can do to boost my happiness and confidence. There's nothing better than their laughter."

4. Take time to prepare for the day


"Sleep - a full night's actual sleep - and five minutes with a hot coffee with no one climbing on me, talking AT me, or demanding my attention - that always revitalises me and makes me feel like I can take on the day again."

5. Look after yourself


"All you need to look good is to get your hair and shoes right. A haircut and a new pair of shoes does the trick for me."

6. ... and don't beat yourself up

bathrooom scales

"Ban the bathroom scales. They eat confidence."

7. Ignore social media 

Kim Kardashian

"I felt more confident when I deleted Facebook, and stopped comparing my life to the (fake) perfect lives people portray on social media and feeling pressured to share my life on there too."

8. Keep moving


"No matter how little I feel like it, exercise always puts a spring in my step and a bloom on my cheeks. So get those trainers on and get out, even if it's only for 20 minutes, it is guaranteed to lift your mood."

9. Give back

Holding hands

"I've recently enrolled on a companionship scheme to spend time with older people in the community who are isolated. One woman in her nineties who I see for a cuppa once a week is an absolute tonic. She has a wicked sense of humour and has been fantastic for helping with my confidence by passing on her wisdom about what's really important. Nurturing friendships, challenging yourself and drinking rum and Coke sums it up. I can't argue with any of that!"

10. And if all else fails... 

"I find not giving a single solitary fuck about what other people think works wonders."

Bridget Jones

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