Rewarding your kids for good behaviour

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Children don't come into the world knowing what good behaviour is (if only) so, as many of us know, rewards can be an effective way of encouraging them to develop positive habits.

But what's the best way to reward your kids that doesn't involve chucking a load of sugar at them? There's a definite balancing act involved in not wanting to spoil them while, at the same time, letting them know when they've been good

Like grown-ups, children are attracted to screens. Sky Broadband is conscious of the need for parents to know how much their kids are online, so they've launched Sky Broadband Buddy, an app which gives parents the ultimate level of control over their family’s internet usage.

Buddy lets you pause your internet, filter sites and manage screen time for devices on WiFi and mobile data. You can even use screen time rewards for when your kids have tidied their bedroom or helped with the washing up. With this in mind, we asked Mumsnet users for their tips on dishing out the rewards.

Don’t let them take you for a ride

Don’t let them take you for a ride

Ever wonder if your kids know more than they let on? Like this toddler, who learned how to game the system at the earliest opportunity…

“I used rewards for potty training and my son ended up with an entire collection of plastic clockwork trains. Once he'd completed his collection he stayed dry consistently, a skill he'd clearly acquired a long time previously. He is much cleverer than me.”

Insist on a screen break

Insist on a screen break

This is where pausing the internet with Sky Broadband Buddy could come in super handy. As this Mumsnet user explains…

“I expect good behaviour and use screens as options to be removed if behaviour isn't good. We sometimes use rewards for doing specific things eg, if we all go for this walk we can have an ice cream when we get there.”

Earn their rewards

Earn their rewards

Struggling to get your children to do anything something? Use screen time as a reward for a chore done or simply sitting still when having their hair cut. Sky Broadband Buddy manages this so you can easily follow up in those moments when your child is on their best behaviour.

“My children are at the age when they constantly seem to be bickering, so if we're going somewhere where I need them to behave – doctor's, hairdresser etc – then I reward good behaviour with extra screen time or a sweet reward.”

Unexpected treats

Unexpected treats

Some kids get anxious if they know their behaviour could get them a reward. So it can be a good idea to reward them when they're not expecting it, especially as the element of surprise shows them that you're watching.

“I like to buy them treats at random times, and say they are a little thank you for excellent or kind behaviour. Treating them when they aren't expecting it helps maintain the impression that I always have my eye on them.”

Get them saving

Get them saving

Here's a nice idea that will introduce them to saving up money at the same time as encouraging good behaviour. Priceless, right?

“If they've been particularly good, and I want to give them a big reward, I put money in an account for them to spend on something special when it mounts up.”

Compliments and cuddles

Compliments and cuddles

No two children are the same and, if you have more than one, you'll welcome the chance to set separate age-appropriate filters and time limits for them with Sky Broadband Buddy. What's true of all kids, however, is they love affection. This Mumsnet user thinks praise is the best reward for good behaviour and considers cuddles an effective solution when things go awry.

“Good behaviour is rewarded through praise. Bad behaviour has consequences, but I am quite soft really. The consequence might even be a cuddle and some calming down if I feel the child just got overwhelmed.”

No rewards (what, none?)

No rewards (what, none?)

This was a surprisingly common response, with several Mumsnet users saying they expect good behaviour from their kids and saw no need to reward it. Turns out Mumsnet users can be tough. Who knew?

“I don't reward for good behaviour and raised my children on the premise that you don't get rewards for doing what you're supposed to do. So far they've turned out fine.”

Buddy up with Sky Broadband

Sky Broadband Buddy lets you manage each screen in your home from an app on your phone or tablet. It’s like a remote for the internet with loads of features:

  • Pause your internet – whether it’s homework time or family time, tap pause on one person or the whole home and they won’t be able to get online.
  • Keep tabs on screen time by setting regular time limits and bedtimes.
  • Create different filters for everyone in the family so they only see what they should.
  • Use screen-time rewards. Washing up done? Bedroom tidied? Keep everyone happy with more time for their favourite apps, games or sites.

Find out more about Sky Broadband Buddy