Just been told your child needs glasses? Here's why you shouldn't worry


Hearing for the first time that your child needs glasses can be hard for parents to process at first. Luckily plenty of other Mumsnetters have been there before and with the benefit of hindsight can give you reasons why you shouldn't worry too much.


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1. Glasses are actually pretty trendy now

"Glasses are so cool. The only hassle my son has with his is stopping his mates from wanting to have a go at wearing his Star Wars glasses!"

"My daughter and her class mates all have pretend specs from Claire's Accessories which they put on at school. they aren't the embarassment they were years ago."

2. You can wear them AND be beautiful. It's an issue of confidence

"My daughter has been wearing + 7.5 since she was 2.5. She is now 15 and has worn glasses every day. She is gorgeous, confident and I am so so proud of her. She has had a tiny bit of teasing when younger but these days the selection of specs is amazing and choosing and fitting them is great fun for both of us."

"Both of my girls wear glasses and are beautiful. The choice of frames is fantastic these days, and many girls at primary school yearn to wear glasses (a friend's daughter recently told porkies at the optician's in the hope of getting a pair). Teasing and bullying have honestly never been an issue."

3. You'll be surprised how quickly you both get used to them

"I got contact lenses at 15 and now after 25 years my dad still says he thinks I have a "glasses face". So whilst you don't think he suits them now, that is because you are not used to seeing him wear them."

"I think my initial problem was that neither his father or me need glasses and I went to the appointment fully appreciating that he would need a patch for his lazy eye but not at all expecting to find out that he had bad eyes (other than the lazy issue IYSWIM). People told me I would get used to the glasses and I didn't believe them but it is true, now I think he looks a little bit odd without them on - not him somehow."

4. The thing to focus on (excuse pun) is how much of a positive difference they can make

"I very clearly remember the first day I got glasses (at about 9 years-old). It was amazing - first thing I said was; 'Wow, the trees have LEAVES!' (I'd never seen them before) Just to give a bit of perspective."

"My mum wept when we found how bad my eyes were at age 5. The school eye test results made her start asking me questions about what I could and couldn't see, and she suddenly realised I was unable to see the beautiful flowers in the garden from the kitchen window. However, it was not at all upsetting for me because I didn't know any different. I just thought that everyone saw the world as a fuzzy (kind if runny watercolour) place."

5. In the grand scheme of things, your child is actually very lucky

"Don't be sad. My quite severe short-sightedness wasn't picked up till I was 7 (my mum just thought I was unusually clumsy! hmm ). I remember well the blessed relief of being to see properly when I got my first pair of specs. It makes me shudder to think of all the kids in the developing world who must be struggling through life hardly able to see."




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