The best advice your mother gave you

Right on time for Mother's Day, Mumsnetters recall the key pieces of advice their mothers gave them; those nuggets of wisdom by which they lived their lives (or at least wished they did).

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On money

"Always have your own bank account."

"If you're going to spend money on children, make sure it's on well-fitting shoes and outdoor coats. Then it doesn't matter what the weather's like, they can still play outside".

"Always save more than you spend of what is left after mortgage and bills."

On relationships

"Don't marry a man who can't cook, clean or look after himself. He's expecting you to do it for him."

'"Pay close attention to how a man eats as it reflects what he is like in other areas.' - she wasn't wrong."

"You shouldn't be asking if you can live with him, but if you can bear to live without him."

"It's hard enough when everything's right and impossible when it isn't."

"The only reason you need a nightie on honeymoon is in case of fire" Said fairly loudly in John Lewis whilst bridal undie shopping. She was right.

"If you have children, remember they are only on loan to you for about 18 years - but this marriage is for the rest of your life. Make sure you look after it."

"Never go to bed on an argument."

On domestic issues

"Don't cook if you're angry. It'll go tits up."

"Don't put it down, put it away."

On your dealings with others

"Always say something sympathetic to a bereaved person. Don't worry about getting it wrong; they're too sad for you to make them any sadder. They will appreciate that you made the effort and didn't avoid them."

"In an argument or dispute, behaving with dignity is your most powerful armour."

"If you accept an invitation, that's a commitment. It's fine not to go, but if you've said yes, YOU GO."

"'Remember that most people are idiots' - I think she was referring to other drivers on the road, but actually, it's true pretty much everywhere."


On life

"Always vote. Whenever and whatever election there is. If you don't you're disrespecting the women who fought so that you could."

"Your education was not just for results - it was so that you always have the option to go somewhere else if you need to."

"Take your coat off indoors or you won't feel the benefit."

"It is better to be useful than decorative."

"Beware temporary solutions. They have a habit of becoming permanent."

"If you find a pair of shoes (or trousers) that are perfect, buy multiple pairs."

"Don't contribute to the wealth of Mexican drugs cartels."

"'Moisturise your neck as well as your face' - hasn't actually stopped me getting old, but seemed to hold things back for a bit..."

And to show the giving of great advice isn't restricted to mums - some paternal gems:

"Learn a brass instrument. That way if you get conscripted they will put you in the band rather than send you to the front."

"If you get arrested call me, not your mother. She'll go apeshit." 

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Last updated: 3 months ago