Mother's Day dos and don'ts: tips for a special day

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Hoping for a harmonious day on 31 March? Mumsnetters are here to help with a useful round-up of things that would make them very happy on Mother's Day. Share it with your loved ones – you might just increase your chances of a lie-in (maybe).

What Mumsnetters really want for Mother's Day

The basics

''Let me have a proper lie-in. That means keeping our son out of the bedroom and not letting him leap all over me while you coo sentimentally.''

“Remember that, while breakfast in bed is top of my wishlist, I'd also like the kitchen to resemble a kitchen, not a bomb site when I come downstairs. Nothing spoils a relaxing lie-in more.”


“Don't say 'You're not my mother' to your wife when she is the one who bought, held in front of you to sign, and then posted, the card for your own mother.”

“Be sensitive to those who have lost their mothers – it can be a very hard day to get through, and a big fuss from/on behalf of the kids does help.”

Mother's Day cards

“Get the children involved, even if they're too young to really understand. Last year a card coloured in by my boys melted my heart.''

child painting

“Don't forget until the day itself, buy a 'thank you' card in desperation and try to cover up by writing 'thank you for being such a good mum'.”

And gifts

“No doormats, oven gloves or tea towels. Ever.”

“Don't buy your mother a lovely exotic plant in a tasteful ceramic pot, and then get your wife three manky hyacinths in a plastic pot with Day-Glo stones on the top. It's the floral equivalent of getting your mum Agent Provocateur undies and your wife hip huggers from M&S.”

“Mothers are not homogenous creatures. We don't all want padded coat hangers, scented drawer liners, teacup candles and cheesy compilation CDs.”

isn't fair

“An afternoon with a bottle of gin would be preferable to an 'I Love Mummy' teddy bear.”

A note to mothers

“Don't strangle your mother-in-law. It's likely to make your husband grumpy for the entire day – he may even be tempted to return your bunch of carnations to the petrol station.”

“Don't get out of bed. Just refuse.”

woman in bed

And some wise words from a realist…

“Don't be surprised if you don't get a lie-in. Your kids will be banging on the door at the crack of dawn, and you'll need your 'grateful face' on to meet the bombardment of garage flowers/microwaved croissants that will greet you.”

And finally…

“Remember that whatever you do for us on Mother's Day will be remembered on Father's Day!”