11 confidence-boosting tips for new parents

New mother and baby at home

About to become a parent, or recently welcomed a newborn? Mumsnetters and Mumsnet vloggers who've been there, done that, and washed the T-shirt share advice on looking after your baby, and yourself. See their top tips for ditching the guilt and embracing the chaos that comes with new parenthood

1. Remember: you're the expert

1. Remember: you're the expert

“Don't be afraid to ask for advice – but also don't be afraid to ignore that advice, and go with your instincts. Do what you feel comfortable with.”

2. Comparisons are not your friend

2. Comparisons are not your friend

“Try not to Google things or compare your child to others. Remember that every child is different.”

3. Help isn't that kind of four letter word

3. Help isn't that kind of four letter word

“If others offer, let them help. If they don't offer, then don't be scared to ask for it.”

“If somebody offers to cook for you, let them. It takes one job away from you. If somebody offers to clean, put your pride to the side and let them clean your house.”

4. Know that this too shall pass

4. Know that this too shall pass

“Almost everything is a phase, and things change all the time. Not sleeping more than four hours, hating the bath, throwing food all over the house? This will pass.”

5. Sometimes babies just cry, and there ain't nothing you can do about it

5. Sometimes babies just cry, and there ain't nothing you can do about it

“If everything is OK with your baby and they're still wailing, it may be that they just need to cry (don't we all, sometimes).

“Comfort them, rock them, sing calmly – but don't feel you have to stop it. Sometimes we feel like we have to fix everything, and it's an awful amount of pressure.”

6. Sleep is not for the weak

6. Sleep is not for the weak

“Sleep whenever you can, as much as you can. You won't be any good to your baby if you're falling over with exhaustion.”

7. You're allowed to get it wrong

7. You're allowed to get it wrong

“Don't panic if you make a mistake. Many of us have made them too, and our children survived!”

8. Take a little time for yourself

8. Take a little time for yourself

“Don't become completely consumed by your newborn. You're your own person too. Even doing the food shopping by yourself can be self-care if it means you're concentrating on something else for a little while.”

9. Talk to grown-ups

9. Talk to grown-ups

“When you’re at home with a newborn sometimes whole days or even weeks can go by and it feels like you haven’t had a proper conversation with an adult. Seek out baby groups in your area, reach out to your mum friends who might also be at home. Talk to your family, or go out and talk to the person at the shop.”

10. Know that you're already doing an amazing job

10. Know that you're already doing an amazing job

“Believe in yourself and your parenting skills. Confidence comes with time – but love and care will take you a long way.”

11. Take comfort from those who've been there before

Three Mumsnet vloggers share their tips on taking care of yourself when you have a newborn. With thanks to Katy from What Katy Said, Chloe from Sorry About the Mess, and Georgina Clarke- Pregnancy and Baby Vlog.