I'm a long time lurker but have joined as I would really appreciate the perspective of others on this matter.
I've done an admin job for maybe 12 years and am self-employed. I work for a couple of people and have done throughout this time. I am really unhappy in my work. I've been feeling very stressed with it for years to the point it's made me ill and I'm now in a financial position where I can drop some of it. I really just want to make my life happier and less stressful and I thought this was the solution. It is something I've been thinking about for a number of years, this isn't a spur of the moment decision.
I gave one of the people I work for notice and said I would work for the next four weeks. As I'm self-employed, I know I don't need to give notice really but I thought it was the decent thing to do to give them the opportunity to find someone to replace me. The problem is, that person hasn't tried to find a replacement for me for three of those four weeks. They only found a replacement this week (my last week) so I've been trying to teach that person about my job, although quite how much you can teach someone in four days I don't know. The big issue is that they have now decided they don't want to do it. That therefore means that I've only 2 days left to work (supposedly) and there's no replacement.
Here's my quandary. I know without a shadow of a doubt that the person I've been working for is going to expect me - not ask me, expect me - to keep working until such point as they find a replacement. They've already alluded to me helping out once I've left. To my mind, that's not how it works when you leave a job. You tell someone you're leaving, you give them fair warning and then you leave. You don't have to keep on to suit them just because they haven't got around to sorting things out.
I think I've been more than reasonable giving them 4 weeks' notice but I know they will try to bully me into keeping on. I really don't want to. I have had enough and had been really, really looking forward to leaving at the end of this week. Now I'm stressed and wound up about it all.
Do you think I'd be perfectly reasonable to say "it's not my problem"? I want to point out that I gave them notice, notice which I wasn't actually obliged to, and that they're being unreasonable expecting me to stay on. I don't want to part on bad terms with this person but neither do I want to be walked all over. The person in question is very pleasant to your face but is someone who is used to getting their own way all the time. I'd appreciate any ideas of how to tackle this when the conversation takes place, and I know it will, tomorrow morning.
Many thanks.
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Advice needed re leaving a self-employed job
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Remona · 22/07/2020 21:41
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