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madcatladyforever Tue 14-Jan-20 13:31:12

I am feeling so low, I just went for an interview for a promotion that I can do standing on my head, backwards with my hands tied together and once more totally fucked it up.
Interview is the only situation where I go to pieces, I can stand up in front of 200 people and talk and do my job really well.
Interviews I sound like Elma Fudd, I stammer, forget the questions, laugh inappropriately and am an all round complete tit.
It's the nerves, I am so high on adrenaline and nerves if they asked me my own name I'd have no idea.
How on earth can I conquer this, it's really holding me back and I so want to be successful?
My interview nerves are ruining my career. I studied for months and was word perfect but forgot the lot as soon as I got in there.

CassidyStone Tue 14-Jan-20 13:35:57

Have you definitely fucked it up? Have you been told you haven't got the promotion?

Interview nerves are a bastard, but the interview panel will take this into account, and if your CV demonstrates your abilities, hopefully they will overlook the stammering, laughing, forgetting the questions bit.

I'm not sure what to suggest, other than practising a few minutes mindfulness before going in.

www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/

madcatladyforever Tue 14-Jan-20 13:53:47

I haven't heard yet but I completely messed up two interviews last year doing the same thing.
Someone mentioned beta blockers so I might have a word with my GP.

maxelly Thu 16-Jan-20 12:27:57

Would lots of practice, specifically role-playing out your interviews with friends/family help? I know it's a bit cringe but even practising the walking in, shaking hands, sitting down bit might help to get your started on a good foot? Also developing and embedding a little routine for yourself, something like listen to the question, repeat it to yourself internally (ask them to repeat if you haven't got it), take a pause, deep breath, think of the start of your answer, pause and breath again, then start to speak? You'll likely come off a bit stiff/tense doing this but if it helps you to actually be able to get your prepared answers and points across that is probably better than going to pieces completely? You''ll need to practice doing it a lot or under the pressure of the interview situation you'll forget and revert to babbling/nervous laughing/forgetting what you're doing, which is why I suggest the role play - or even perhaps just practising out loud to yourself, but always including the 'pre-answer' routine?

Hope you sort it, nerves are horrible things!

wheresmyrunningshoes Thu 23-Jan-20 20:51:19

I hate interviews. I have royally messed some up.

1. Lower your expectations, good enough is okay
2. Get an interview coach. Best money I spent and got me my current position

Yes beta blockers might help.

Also go for more of them (exposure and desensitisation).

7thlevelofthecandycaneforest Thu 23-Jan-20 21:02:04

Are you in a role where you can volunteer to interview others? I found being on the other side really took the fear out of interviews and made me realise what interview panels are looking for.

SparklingUnderpants Thu 23-Jan-20 21:12:09

I was the same, but I got better after going through more interviews.

Practice does make perfect in this case, no matter how painful it is.

goteam Thu 23-Jan-20 21:18:51

Lots of practice and preparation. Role plays as others suggested with a partner asking you expected questions. Rehearse your replies. I write a different coloured card with each expected question and bullet points with key words on to prompt my replies. I don't take them in but try to visualise them. Good luck next time.

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