We have a 'precious' colleague, everyone treads on egg shells around him, let's call him Keith.
When I joined the company 8 years ago I was warned about him, but I take people at face value until the day of the 'incident' !!!!
We were short-staffed, there were 3 of us running 4 "stations". Keith was off. When he returned the next day all 3 of us had forgotten to clear up his "station' from the previous day, a job that takes about 10 minutes. As I was the nearest person Keith went absolutely mental with me. He screamed and shouted, cursed me, wished me dead then came towards me in a very threatening manner, I backed off and legged it. All my apologising and offering to clear didn't seem to register. I thought the incident was over but Keith then refused to speak to me for 19 months! He excluded me from team meetings, birthday celebrations, would walk out of the room if I walked in etc etc
Ho Hum until today.
Next week a colleague, let's call her Tracy is scheduled to work at our other site. Today Keith asked the manager if he could swap some days with Tracy to give her a break from the other site. He and the manager were discussing this, in our job it's usually best to work in the same "station" all week. I'm a part-timer who is also due to work at the other site next week. In passing I just said to Keith well you could always swap with me? Meaning that it was less days to swap and would be a straight swap so no business implications. Innocent enough I thought? I've lit the blue-touch paper!!!! He comes back to the office a few minutes later and said he wanted a quiet word with me....he got me on a room on my own and said "I've offered to swap with Tracy NOT WITH YOU ALRIGHT!!!!!!" Oh no I hope I'm not going to be bullied for another year or two? How can someone hold on to that anger for so many years?
There may be another element to this. Tracy is our 'xyz' officer, next week is 'xyz' week. Keith wants to be the 'xyz' specialist but he has severe anxiety and confidence issues and is frankly rather dim, so is not ideal for the job. 'xyz 'week includes giving some informal talks to colleagues. Perhaps Keith wants Tracy to be around to do this??
BTW Keith hasn't "a thing" for Tracy, Keith is gay and very camp.
This may seem a trivial spat but it really upsets me. It's horrible to feel that you are still hated for something that was so minor, so long ago. My manager is supportive but has been bullied by him too, taken through grievance procedures. Keith's manager changes often, as I don't think any of them can manage him, or want to deal with him. Higher management seem to take Keith's sides in these matters (there has been lots of them!)
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I wish I could stand up to a bully
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Standuptoabully · 29/10/2019 19:06
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