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Justcurious007 Fri 19-Jul-19 19:49:33

This is my first post and without giving too much of my identity away so it doesn't affect my job I just wanted to hear some peoples opinions.
I recently joined a company which has great prospects however, I feel very excluded from my team. Most of the employees have years of experience in the role and I'm a newbie. New company and completely massive career change. I try my best to get on with colleagues but I've found my lead (not manager) to be very set in their ways and hard to connect with. I abide by everything that they say and try to work hard but they only seem to be interested in the long time members of staff. When things regarding work are discussed for example 'should we do this...should we do that' I'm excluded from that conversation until they come to me and say 'right...this is what we are doing and you need to follow these decisions' or when I ask a question I feel as though I'm interrupting my colleagues general chats and banter (that again I've not been included in and the doors half shut on me whilst they have these) and I get an abrupt response. It's really got me down because I like to think I'm a nice person and I try my best to be helpful. It's the first "corporate" environment I've ever been in but after under a year I feel like I dont want to go to work every morning. I dont want to approach my line manager and make an issue of this but I feel like I need to stand up for myself but unsure how. Will it just take time to receive the same level of respect and I should just ride it out or should I say something? And if so what? Opinions are greatly appreciated.

YeOldeTrout Fri 19-Jul-19 21:34:37

How recently did you start?

Justcurious007 Fri 19-Jul-19 21:36:28

Will be a year very soon.

YeOldeTrout Fri 19-Jul-19 22:14:44

11months is not recent.
Probably need to pull them up on each specific incident where decisions are made without your input. There are positive but direct ways to do this. Positive tone, simple statement. "Do you realise you made all those decisions without asking for my input?"

I'd end up rehearsing the conversation how I wish I had it could go, so I was prepared. Sounds like they have recurring similar situations, so there is one you can practice for.

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