Feeling despondent - please cheer me up

[polarexpresstime]

I haven't got nearly as much work as I wanted over the past 6 months so I'm struggling for cash.

I had 2 clients lined up for January. One has decided to go with another person - he was very nice about it but it grates nonetheless. I don't think I take rejection well.

The other called me in for a meeting (I know his business partner), agreed the work in the meeting but has now emailed me to tell me he'll do it himself. I think he was just touting to find out what to do.

I've been suffering from anxiety issues this year, which I've been addressing, but it's left me at a low ebb. Today has just left me feeling that I'm rubbish at my job, which I've been feeling for months..

I don't quite know what to do to get my mojo back and I really need to earn more money in 2017.

What can I do to pick myself up a bit?

[TrollTheRespawnJeremy]

I think sometimes when things like this hit you, you end up feeling low and it comes across in your output/social media/networking.

I'm not sure exactly what it is that you do, but can you create a project for yourself-maybe do a few specs of things that you would like to work on and then send it out to generate interest?

Or can you add another string to your bow (so to speak) and have another avenue/add value to your business so that you're excited about it again.

If you feel like you're rubbish-you're probably not selling yourself. Vicious circle!!

[polarexpresstime]

That's exactly what's happened Troll - I think I talk myself out of things in a 'oh what's the fucking point' kind of way.

You're right - I need to focus on the work I do want and go out and get it.

[TrollTheRespawnJeremy]

That's the spirit!

If you have nothing on the books, focus on creating something to showcase your talents via social media for an unknown client

Hopefully it will gain a bit of new interest and you can start the year refreshed.

[MrsMargoLeadbetter]

Hello polar

Looks like Troll has helped. But just wanted to say I hear you about being rejected. I take it SO personally. I am suffer from anxiety too.

The reality is we cannot win everything, but I know what it feels like to miss out when you really need the work. If you were busy, it probably wouldn't bother you.

If you need 'closure' can you think through both scenarios - anything you would have done differently? What will you do next time etc? I find time helps too.

And, you need to focus on making 2017 a better year. What can you do now to help with that? Update LinkedIn, email ex clients with an Xmas message?

[polarexpresstime]

Thanks Margot

I'm feeling better today. Actually I didn't even want the client - I didn't really warm to him and I have a feeling he sensed that.

I think my lesson is not to spend time chasing business I don't want that much because it never works.

I'm sending proper Christmas cards to all my clients this year - I'm hoping that will help and make me feel better.