Hair Length(42 Posts)
He's a twat, that's why.
I have quite long hair myself, but don't care how other women wear theirs.
I agree with cheerful my hair is very long, but I was admiring a woman with very short hair in the supermarket yesterday. Mine suits me, hers definitely suited her.
I like short hair on women but isn't it just a preference, like blonde or brunette? I never fancied men with curly hair until I met my DH, who had very short hair when we met and I was a bit when it grew in a bit and it was curly.
If this guy said he wouldn't hire or promote a woman with short hair, that would be unacceptable.
I used to have very long hair. I have had various mid length styles and bobs and always looked a bit meh. I have a number 2 now and I definitely look better and get loads of compliments.
I don't think he has decided that she has suddenly become worthless if she cuts her hair short, more that he has no interest in her worth to start with.
Saying that though, a lot of people do have a 'type' an wouldn't be attracted to anyone who varied very far from that type.
That guy was a twat. End.
I have mid length hair. If I could carry off super short, I would, but I don't think I have the face/head for it!
I'm v jealous of your short hair
"I don't think he has decided that she has suddenly become worthless if she cuts her hair short, more that he has no interest in her worth to start with. "
This. It's not about the hair. It's about the fact he sees women as objects, and hence, how they look matters, because there's nothing inside to matter.
He was a shit. I also prefer short hair
so the guy doesn't fancy women with short hair
the same way I don't fancy bald men?
it's one person's opinin and means nothing -obviously your DH thinks otherwise
don't see yor problem?
tbh i'm not keen on men with shaved heads or mean with really long hair. that being said, if i was going out with someone long term and the shaved their heads or decided to grow it long it wouldn't be a dumping offence. you'd probably find that if that same guy was actually going out with penelope cruz and after a while she cut her hair he wouldn't dump her either. but yes if someone with lets say, a mullet was trying to gain my affections, they'd stand a better chance after a decent haorcut
Hair is incredibly personal and everyone should of course have what they want; But equally we must be free to like or dislike.
Anyone who dumps someone because of their hairstyle is rather shallow and stupid to say the least.
I have had all sorts of hair (other than permed) over the years, DH never really commented as he knew it could mean trouble. He recently did admit he prefers me with longer hair (coincidentally I have hair just past the shoulders at the moment!)
If he wouldn't start going out with someone with short hair because he doesn't find that attractive, fair enough.
If he really would dump someone for getting a haircut he wouldn't like, he's very shallow.
Most likely he wouldn't, and he's confused the first with the second, and is just not very good at thinking.
I am not a fan of men with beards, and it is unlikely that a man with a beard would get my attention in that way because I would not think of him as fanciable. But if DP grew a beard I might still fancy him because I know of his other qualities and I already think of him that way.
I think the correct answer is If YOU were going out with Penelope Cruz? That's really not a situation that you need to devote much thought to mate.
On reading my mind went over to the David Beckham advert. The MNers who said they would be happy to have his company, as long as he didn't speak. And I thought perhaps it was thinking along the same vein as "If I had my perfect partner they would have....but they wouldn't....."
In reality I doubt many would turn down a date with Mr Beckham whether he sat and loudly read the script to Twilight to them, but that was the "game" they were playing.
Time for Zippy1111 to step up and point out that here women are discussing a topic that's about choices for women, but which for most men in our society, comes with very little freedom at all.
I'd love to be able to carry off really short hair! I had really straggly long hair (not attractive!) for years, but got it cut a year ago to a chin length bob. My head is so round though I'd look like a football or Charlie Brown if I had it very short!
My issue is I'm trying not to dye as I think grey hair is cool - sadly, mines growing in right now. So doesn't look good!
I would suspect that the number of women with extremely short hair/shaved heads is probably fairly similar to the number of men with very long hair. Both are convention busters which would probably not be tolerated in conservative workplaces/circles.
I'd agree that the guy in question was a bit of an idiot, but it sounds like banter to me so I'd not really be bothered. I feel the same way about beards though (I like them) if I was playing 'fantasy men' there are a few who with beards would hit the list and without would be on the cutting room floor.
That doesn't mean I'd dump dh if he shaved, I'd just fancy him that little bit less for a few days.
I think gray hair is cool too! I have very light
creepy blue eyes and I'm excited to have silver hair someday. It'll look witchy and cool.
On further thinking, I may be strange.
Grey hair looks fantastic on some people (as does white). On others not so good. I currently have blond and red streaks in my dark brown hair. My mother said I looked like a demented zebra. Thanks Mum!
I think you just need to feel confident that you like the way you look.
Creepy light blue eyes and silver hair sounds fab.
I have very short hair. If I met someone who said they would dump a woman because of it, I would think myself lucky that he would never be interested in me and keep it short to ward off other knobbers with the same attitude.
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