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This makes me bang my heAD against the wall in depressed weariness, you?

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Adair Mon 12-Apr-10 07:45:47

Apologies if it has already been mentioned


I have one of each. And while I am starting to see differences in how they approach some things, there are also many things that are the same - just as there are also many differences between dd and her female friends. And so WHY DOES IT FREAKIN' MATTER?!

Am also sick and tired that when ds destroys things it is seen admiringly as if he is 'experimenting with the world around him' but dd is admonished for being naughty (possibly even by me occasionally blush). How did all the stupid things boys do get to be the best way - yet, just as in this article, there is a kind of dismissive tone of the 'good little girls' who sit quietly and play even though they raise how they are asking questions and engaging just as vigourously with the world. But because they are not climbing... BAH. And FWIW my dd climbs anyway. A LOT.

It is just so LIMITING and frustrating to interpret behaviour because of gender. Even the psychologist did it - why couldn't she say 'oh boys want to play with a stick by throwing it and waving it* (my dd will do this too) but girls will want to make it into patterns or use it in imaginative play' rather than this guns and teacups bollocks.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh, I love this topic where I can rant. It's just SO FUCKING DEPRESSING. And people just accept it without CHALLENGING IT.

At dd's party yesterday, the girls were the 'princesses' and the boys were the 'baddie boys'WTF??!!!! Thankfully, me and another mum jumped in to suggest some alternatives (that they were superhero princesses like in Shrek). But jeez.

AmandaPayneNeedsaHoliday Sun 17-Mar-13 11:25:07

Oh, just seen it's spam. Nice.

kelda Sun 17-Mar-13 11:26:23


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AuntieStella Sun 17-Mar-13 11:36:38

Put your crayons away.

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I just want to point out that most small children kept up until 9 pm would be hysterical, hyper and unpredictable, no matter their sex.

I dressed my 14 mo ds up in a tutu skirt recently. He loved swooshing the skirts. I must get a fancy dress box together, I didn't think he'd be up for dressing up at this age grin

I also wonder how much of the gender difference is due to what encouragement the children are given. Have those boys been encouraged to run and jump whilst those girls were encouraged to sit nicely and ask thoughtful questions?

Grr. Note to self: check for flies and the aroma of rotting flesh dates before posting

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