An acquaintance stabbed her husband last week (third time he has been hospitalised as a result of dv). Their son witnessed the attack (she was screaming 'I'm going to kill you') and called the police. Thankfully the dh is ok and has been released from hospital, but they were all spread to the four winds as child protection were involved.
Now he says he's going back to her and wants to play happy families. again. I am aghast - no-one seems to be offering him any DV counselling/ any other alternative. Surely if he was a woman there would be options? Women's refuge/ shelter etc?
I know that the feminism board seems like a really weird place to post this, but I sort of feel like I don't know what I should think. Half of me wants to offer her support (alcohol/ depression) as she has been told what she needs to do if she wants to be allowed ds in the house, but half of me thinks the dh needs more support than she does...
I am utterly conflicted. Anyone help me explore this a bit? If it was a standard 'husband attacks wife' I'd know where I was going. It's not the role reversal itself (acknowledge dv can happen in any situation) but the fact there seems to be so little support for a man in this situation... I don't know where this leaves my ideology and don't know which direction to offer support!
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leclerc · 24/03/2010 01:32
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