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Men voicing their gender ideology concerns on Twitter tonight

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SocialConnection · 24/09/2021 23:55

Over on Twitter, @WomenReadWomen has asked a simple question - and crucially she's asked it of

'men who disagree with gender ideology ...

what is your main concern?'

And men's replies; polite, reasonable, thoughtful; are coming in their several hundreds so far.

Please share with the chaps in your life and ask them to join these men who are speaking up.

Oddly enough there don't seem to be many bellowing accusations of terfery and transphobia in the comments below their responses.

Men voicing their gender ideology concerns on Twitter tonight
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PanicPrevention · 25/09/2021 00:25

Have you got a link op?

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acatcalledjohn · 25/09/2021 00:31
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Freespeecher · 25/09/2021 00:50
  1. Safeguarding.


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CorianderAndCream · 25/09/2021 00:57

Wow. How wonderful to see so many men defending women and girls. Truly refreshing to see that so many care and also worry for our single sex spaces. Maybe I spend too much time on TikTok reading the vitriol young men write.

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Branleuse · 25/09/2021 00:58

Interesting

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NiceGerbil · 25/09/2021 02:13

Had s look through whole bunch at beginning and very very interesting.

Harm to women comes up and children too but it's not the number one for many.

Recurring items were -

Denial of science/ reality
Suppressing of free speech (no debate)
Authoritarianism
Gaslighting /being told to accept lies as truth

I wonder if it's time to start focusing on more stands then the impact on women and girls. That's massive obv but often seen as 'women's issues' and many men tune out. Putting some focus on additional areas which might engage more of an audience might be productive? I mean lots of people don't care much about women anyway sadly. I mean bad things happen to us all the time anyway it's in the news all the time. Nothing changes what can be done.

Thoughts?

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LobsterNapkin · 25/09/2021 03:23

@NiceGerbil

Had s look through whole bunch at beginning and very very interesting.

Harm to women comes up and children too but it's not the number one for many.

Recurring items were -

Denial of science/ reality
Suppressing of free speech (no debate)
Authoritarianism
Gaslighting /being told to accept lies as truth

I wonder if it's time to start focusing on more stands then the impact on women and girls. That's massive obv but often seen as 'women's issues' and many men tune out. Putting some focus on additional areas which might engage more of an audience might be productive? I mean lots of people don't care much about women anyway sadly. I mean bad things happen to us all the time anyway it's in the news all the time. Nothing changes what can be done.

Thoughts?

Yes.

I've said this a few times here, gender ideology is only one element of a wider, very problematic social movement that includes all kinds of authoritarian tendencies, denials of reality, bad argumentation.

Lots of people are drawn in because they see what is happening in some area that touches their lives. Academic freedom, democratic representation, etc.

Not only will highlighting these things appeal to a wider group of people, gender ideology is not just about some sort of misogyny, it's about a whole set of beliefs. As long as people think that way, it will always have a foothold.
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NiceGerbil · 25/09/2021 03:30

For women the issues are obvious and anger is growing.

The most pressing current issue is the impact of women and girls.

However not everyone really gives a toss about us so yes. Other things are involved that COULD lead to other issues for sure.

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JustSpeculation · 25/09/2021 05:31

"Recurring items were -

Denial of science/ reality
Suppressing of free speech (no debate)
Authoritarianism
Gaslighting /being told to accept lies as truth"

Yes, that's what dragged me in. Mainly the bullying and coercion. I hate bullying and coercion. Only after that did I get the safeguarding and women's rights issues. Starting with JKR's essay and my son's surprisingly thoughtless, uncritical reaction to it, which led me here, and from here to a myriad other links and books.

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thinkingaboutLangCleg · 25/09/2021 05:46

This news is encouraging. My main concern is the harm to children and women. But the other wrongs are important too, and if they provoke more men to oppose the ideology, it all helps wake people up.

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MrsOvertonsWindow · 25/09/2021 06:45

It's hard to know whether it's because this is my priority so I look for it, but I'm always heartened to see so many men identify risks to children. With an ideology that has deliberately recruited so many children, it's good to see men identifying the safeguarding risks to children - although I suspect these might be primarily fathers.

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MrsOvertonsWindow · 25/09/2021 06:56

Thank you for sharing this OP. That's such a heartwarming read with so many succinct thoughtful comments.

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SD1978 · 25/09/2021 07:09

It's disheartening to see that men can have a view which is not questioned, on why there are issues, and yet women- the very group that is most affected, can not without fear of being attacked online, hunted down and abused.

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oldwomanwhoruns · 25/09/2021 07:50

Yes, NiceGerbil, this has been an educating read (see? I am educating myself!). If I get to talk to men about this , I will now concentrate more on the 'denial of reality', and damage to children. And the lies/free speech.
I don't care what levers we have to pull to win this war.

And yes, SD1978, men don't get the abuse. They probably don't even notice, they probably think that it's their clear, incisive comments that make all the difference. Not like the pink wooly tweets of us wimmin.

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Babdoc · 25/09/2021 08:29

That was a very encouraging read. I’m delighted that men in general are not buying into the ideology, because in our sexist society, their voices will be respectfully listened to.
You don’t see many TRAs threatening burly men with rape and murder, or demands to “suck my dick”. I wonder why…!

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IvyTwines2 · 25/09/2021 08:53

I'm glad they get this: 'There is one facet that perhaps isn't acknowledged as much as it should be, though some people in the thread have, and that's this is a class issue. It's an ideology of the privileged that will disproportionately affect working-class women.'

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chillied · 25/09/2021 09:15

why is there a complete absence of any "abusive come back" on that thread? No one getting called a bigot, no chant of TWAW, no swearing, didn't spot any dissenting voices

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EmbarrassingAdmissions · 25/09/2021 11:43

@IvyTwines2

I'm glad they get this: 'There is one facet that perhaps isn't acknowledged as much as it should be, though some people in the thread have, and that's this is a class issue. It's an ideology of the privileged that will disproportionately affect working-class women.'

Agreed.

The Deptford Project showed that in very clear terms. How unaccountable that their perspective has been ignored or classed as ignorant and in need of re-education.
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Doubletap · 25/09/2021 11:56

It was the Deptford Project which was my eye opener into what was happening with identity politics, I have a working class background, and I couldn’t believe what was going on there, the absolute ego and narrow-mindedness of the Goldsmith students.

That in turn lead me down the rabbit hole of gender politics, and as someone who (at that time) worked with vulnerable families and it left me so frustrated and angry that the idiots responsible for allowing men into women’s spaces never even considered how it would impact women who need single sex services, which is most often the most vulnerable women.

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SocialConnection · 25/09/2021 12:53

It's astonishing, isn't it?

A calm, barbed-wire-baseball-bat-free space throughout. Just sensible conversation.

Is there ... Is there hope???

Thankyou for adding the link, it wouldn't take my attempt; hence adding the screenshot.

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CreepingDeath · 25/09/2021 12:56

I agree, most men will be drawn in on the logic aspect, rather than how it affects women.And like a PP said, we need all the support we can get at this stage, so it all helps.

People talking about the Deptford Project - do you have a link to it? I googled and just got architecture stuff Hmm.
Was it the working class women's group that was that was infiltrated by overprivileged males, who turned the focus to everything trans?

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MrsOvertonsWindow · 25/09/2021 15:00
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MrsOvertonsWindow · 25/09/2021 15:02

Should have said you need to get towards the end of the article in the first link for the full details.

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