Feminism: Sex & gender discussions
For anyone who doesn't know The Rules!!!!
WhatyoutalkingaboutWillis · 15/05/2021 14:52
Wow.
As a cis woman, I'm hoping that people have to "drop something in my PayPal" if I have to discuss something "triggering" to me 
I remember this article from when it was first published and discussed here. It's still bollocks.
As a side OP your username is very familiar ... long time no sea if you're the poster I'm thinking of (or is it see? I may be having a Chetster Drawers moment 
).
Whilst all the rules are just 
and I had to pick out these particular gems:
Do not enter queer or trans safe spaces without a queer person asking you to be there or without making sure that allies are welcome.
When you are in queer spaces, repeat: “This is not my space, I will not fill it” and actually do what you say.
If you are called out for being offensive, do not argue. This is not a debate. Apologise. Take a moment to reflect. If necessary, leave or give the space over to those you have offended or upset.
Do not tell us we “are playing the victim,” WE ARE THE FUCKING VICTIM.
If trans folk do have to explain something to you that may be uncomfortable, triggering, or upsetting for us, buy us a bunch of flowers, take us for dinner, drop something into our PayPal. No labor should be free.
Offer shelter, money, food etc. The basics of survival are hard for trans folk. If you have enough to spare, try to offer.
If your trans friend is leaving a social situation and feels uneasy about travel, offer to walk them to a train station and wait with them, drive them home, or get them a taxi. Travelling home alone by yourself can be a scary scenario.
Do anything you can to stop trans exclusionary radical feminists (TERFs) from leaving stickers, leaflets etc. Tear down everything you see associated with them.
Do not engage in question-based conversations with TERFs. You have nothing to learn from them.
Gender and sexuality are not the same thing. Remember that at all times.
Correct yourself if you accidentally misgender someone. It doesn’t matter if it was an accident – it still hurts.
Sex work is a service. Again, this is not up for debate. Do not try to stop trans folk from advocating for and implementing their own safety measures. Do not hide your prejudice against sex workers with fake worry.
Pride is not for you to get drunk and smear glitter on your face. Respect that this is not your space.
Trans-only groups are there for a reason. These are also not your spaces
I also am not playing Top Trumps with you. Don’t try to top my experience.
Narcissism on steroids - all about meee, mee, me.
The irony in some of those statements is off the charts.
Nice to have them confirm that Pride is for Trans only.
No debate, submit to us, prostrate yourselves at our feet and worship and fund us, nothing else is acceptable.
@tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz
As a side OP your username is very familiar ... long time no sea if you're the poster I'm thinking of (or is it see? I may be having a Chetster Drawers moment
).There was a poster called something like WotchatalkingboutWillis who was on the opposite side of the debate, wasn’t there?
I call my period ‘cis privilege’ especially when it wakes me to change my sheets at 2am.
Making my way through it but this is ironic
14. Do not enter queer or trans safe spaces without a queer person asking you to be there or without making sure that allies are welcome.
@Soubriquet
14. Do not enter queer or trans safe spaces without a queer person asking you to be there or without making sure that allies are welcome.
Isn't it just.
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And another
92. Trans-only groups are there for a reason. These are also not your spaces.
So trans people are allowed their own exclusive space....but women aren’t?
Talk about double standards
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