I want to say this here. I’ve not seen this addressed in any of the discussions about this over the years and I think more gc women need to be aware of this.
Aside from the shockingly bad grammar involved in using plural pronouns for ‘gender neutral’ or non binary etc it’s also appropriation. People who have DID (dissociative identity disorder) term themselves multiple (as opposed to us singletons). They use we us and they/them/their.
I’m a survivor of csa and have worked with other survivors for decades. Imho there’s a great deal of the multiple community who are vulnerable to the trans ideology and plenty who aren’t in a position to speak up. I wouldn’t doubt they all agree with me on this so I don’t want to claim to be taking on anyone’s behalf. But plenty of people (women almost always ime) living with DID place a great deal of importance on viewing themselves as multiple as opposed to using the diagnosis they have or DID. They see the latter as a medical diagnosis and a sign they are wrong, but the use of multiple is a way forward for them where they can learn for alters to co-operate with one another and not be pushed to intergate, which some see as a way for medical professionals to ‘fix’ them and erase their experience of how they survived trauma. I appreciate this isn’t everyone’s experience of DID and I’m not meaning to trample over those who don’t feel this way, but many survivors I’ve worked with or have known as friends through survivor groups voice this.
The arguement that using they/them/their is harmless isn’t true. Appropriating the language used by the DID community, language which helps make them feel safe and describes their experience and enables them to move forward with their condition is hugely harmful. DID is almost always the result of extreme and repeated sexual abuse, during the primary attachment period and often by primary care givers. This particular group of survivors are one of the most vulnerable and most victimised groups and appropriating their language to appease the most privileged group-men- is an abuse of power.
So for those overlooking grammar or arguing against those who are rolling their eyes at that arguement please keep this in mind. I never hear or see the DID communities needs ever acknowledged or addressed outside of work or survivor groups. They may be a small minority but they are a hugely vulnerable one and the idea that 51% of the population should bend over backwards to accommodate the needs of the tiny percentage of trans people seems ingrained, yet they directly take away the language used by a much much more vulnerable and unseen/unsupported percentage of the population.
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Fffffs · 24/10/2020 09:06
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