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Shall we all self id as men?

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PamDenick Tue 28-Jul-20 21:57:34

If all the craziness continues, why don’t we all self ID as men? We don’t have to DO anything. We can dress how we want, be brave and beautiful, join the Masons (whoopee) and this would expose the madness for what it is...

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thirdfiddle Thu 30-Jul-20 21:28:41

I think toddlers can tell the difference with adults because they do look different - but with other toddlers they go by the pink/long hair/skirt= girl, blue/short hair/no frills = boy rules until you explain otherwise to them. They can get quite cross about people breaking what they think the rule is, an acquaintance's gnc son would get other children insisting that he must be wrong and he was a girl.

highame Thu 30-Jul-20 17:47:44

@speakout what a fantastic idea.

I'm going to identify as a 25 year old Adonis (not like the old Lord you numpty) without qualifications but stacks of cash

DickKerrLadies Thu 30-Jul-20 17:21:43

Dressing gown of doom!!! gringrin

Now I'm really sold.

fascinated Thu 30-Jul-20 16:55:16

@HavelockVetinari indeed. Toddlers can easily tell the difference. Hence the well known phase where every male you see in the street = “there’s daddy!”

speakout Thu 30-Jul-20 16:48:25

I fancy identifying as a blonde haired 6'3" Danish male architect.

I am in fact a foot shorter, dark haired, UK born, female and zero training in architecture.

But hey- it works for me!

peekaboob Thu 30-Jul-20 16:44:14

I'm going to the dump tomorrow and the other men then will assume I know what goes where seeing as I'm a man an all wink

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace Wed 29-Jul-20 20:54:39

OMG. It's like the coffee bag ad: why didn't we think of this before? grin

HavelockVetinari Wed 29-Jul-20 20:48:15

(Embarrassing shopping moment, transwoman just trying to do the weekly shop in Morrisons, DS asked me very loudly "what's dat man doing, Mummy? He's got a dress like a lady!" - TW was fine about it and smiled at him, but I was pretty mortified)

HavelockVetinari Wed 29-Jul-20 20:45:17

ScrimpshawTheSecond

*Equating dress wearing with being a woman is simultaneously both a regressive sex stereotype and cultural imperialism.*

It's an assumption children under a certain age often make, from their observations of gender norms being filtered through a still developing brain - children are acutely perceptive at noticing social cues, but still only capable of very simplistic rationalisation.

I don't think that's true, actually. My toddler can easily tell the difference between male and female, regardless of dress.

OneEpisode Wed 29-Jul-20 20:11:50

highame. No idea.
Makes no difference to younger people but for older people there was a different promise made to men and women for state pensions.
Hence the WASPI campaign when the commitment was changed for state pensions.
I also don’t know about employer “defined benefit“ pensions, I don’t know how many are different for male/female pensioners.

It would be a different scenario for defined contribution or personal pensions, possibly switching to transman might get a higher monthly annuity amount in retirement? I think annuities are priced vs life expectancy and sex might be one of the questions, the annuity might increase if the male life expectancy were shorter than the female and the transman was eligible for the male formula...

highame Wed 29-Jul-20 19:45:57

So does that mean every man can now claim a backdate or retire early. Do you think their pension companies will be happy. Funny this isn't it

OneEpisode Wed 29-Jul-20 19:13:17

My this is fun. Do any of you manly men want to use your manly men brains to calculate how much money is owed to the older transwomen who were unable to retire at 60 under the nasty unfair GRA 2004 rules, but will under nice new Self ID version?

The old rules were so unfair that these poor transwomen never came out, but they are trans, and have always been. obvs.
In MB v Secretary of State for Work & Pensions, poor MB won a 5 year backdate. They would have GRC’d, but never did because of the pesky “spousal veto”
For instance www.gov.uk/government/publications/transgender-people-equal-treatment-for-state-pension

Anyone up for the maths and see what Rishi Sunak would think of this?

Deathraystare Wed 29-Jul-20 18:37:48

I hope I am not forced to watch sport now or take up cycling!

Deathraystare Wed 29-Jul-20 18:37:17

I am so getting a Dressing Gown of Doom!

You go girl/guy/er... them/they???! I am getting a man sized headache just thinking of this!

ErrolTheDragon Wed 29-Jul-20 16:58:11

Deathraystare

Then we could all complain to our wives how tired we are!!!!!!


I am so getting a Dressing Gown of Doom!

Thesuzle Wed 29-Jul-20 13:49:47

I could talk over others and expect to be listened to, no mater what crap I was talking

Deathraystare Wed 29-Jul-20 13:47:24

Then we could all complain to our wives how tired we are!!!!!!

Deathraystare Wed 29-Jul-20 13:46:43

We could manspread and mansplain - just not at the same times cos we cannot multitask!

We can also apply and get jobs we are not good at. I reckon I would make a cracking rocket scientist. No experience needed surely? Just the old boy network!!!

ScrimpshawTheSecond Wed 29-Jul-20 13:25:18

Equating dress wearing with being a woman is simultaneously both a regressive sex stereotype and cultural imperialism.

It's an assumption children under a certain age often make, from their observations of gender norms being filtered through a still developing brain - children are acutely perceptive at noticing social cues, but still only capable of very simplistic rationalisation.

ColinTheDachshund Wed 29-Jul-20 12:46:04

Woof!
<still identifying as a dog>

ErrolTheDragon Wed 29-Jul-20 12:43:55

* I’m not sure woman = dress or vice versa. Woman isn’t a costume.*

I'm absolutely sure it doesn't. Dresses for women and not for men is merely a current (or rather, decades outdated) western cultural norm.

Equating dress wearing with being a woman is simultaneously both a regressive sex stereotype and cultural imperialism.

DianasLasso Wed 29-Jul-20 12:39:31

ErrolTheDragon

I can keep my long hair because I'm a middle aged software developer. Ok, so I'm not balding at the front so I've not quite got the look right but close enough.

I'm going to keep mine long too but it will identify as a man bun.

Sexnotgender Wed 29-Jul-20 12:35:52

I can say I'm a man so I'm a man, no matter how I look and act.

If Alex Drummond can lay claim to womanhood then you’re absolutely entitled to be a man.

W0nderW0man Wed 29-Jul-20 12:32:25

I am seriously considering self-ID as a man. No-one will believe me as I wear dresses and skirts and make-up and pretty accessories 90% of the time but that's the point, surely? I can say I'm a man so I'm a man, no matter how I look and act.

I'm sure that my sadly turning-more-woke-by-the-day employers will treat me with more respect and allowances for poor performance if I tell them I'm a man and finally stop with my silent protest and add my chosen pronouns to my email signature, and I don't need to provide more evidence than my 'feelings'. I have a unisex name (or unigender?) so I won't even have to change my name.

caspiansghost Wed 29-Jul-20 12:29:00

What about

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